4. The feminist proposal of exclusively female courtship initiation
4.4. The misleading perception of conversation initiation as rape or sexual harassment due to psychopathological distortion
This article continues the previous one
b) The abusive or sexual eccentric emotional behavior women interest for the legal incrimination of the peaceful male courtship initiation in order to extend their political power
If in the first item category were included those women with a defensive psychopathological predisposition, in this case enter those with an offensive predisposition to the psychopathological deformed liberties extension. The first category contains the phobic women who anxiously and defensively consume their phobia. On the contrary, those in this category switch to counterattack, extending their anguish to the outside. Some of them become vehement activists for changing legislation or social norms, as is this proposal to exclusive female courtship.
Catherine Deneuve described feminism as neo-Victorian, identifying it to the histrionic like disorders. But she was wrong when she reduced the whole feminist movement to histrionism, as she herself later admitted. Eventually she accepted another category of feminists, namely traumatized phobics, which I described in the previous article. But even this correction is insufficient to describe the whole feminism movement. In fact, as we have seen so far and we shall see later, in the feminist movement there are included various psychopathological types and interests. The proposal of exclusively female courtship initiation, which is the subject of this series of articles, benefits a very broad spectrum of social groups and psychopathological configurations, and even the common women. Only the conservative women do not benefit from it, and I will show in a later article why such a proposal shortens their rights. And for this reason the feminism has strong opponents even among women, like these ones. But for those with an emancipated mentality, the implementation of this revolution brings additional freedom. They adopt it for totally justified reasons of building the most possible favorable and stable couple in the long term.
I pointed in this article the case of married women that have lower sexual appetite than their husbands. They support the exclusive female courtship initiation revolution because they want a more favorable negotiation with the partner on reducing the sexual intercourse frequency. Then, the risk of encountering a Casanova abuser or a hidden identity sadist as a courtship initiator makes the rejection a true caution decision. In addition to these normal couple consolidation interests, there are also those of the abnormal, psychopathological couples’s consolidation or improvement. And, from this point of view, the exclusive female courtship initiation theory does not solve these problems because it does not exclude the contact with the Casnova abuser or the sadistic killer. I will return to this topic in the following articles. On the contrary, such a revolution comes rather from the psychopathological background, as a symptom. Next I will describe what these special psychopathological interests are.
This is firstly the case of the eccentric heterosexual behavior women. They only want certain things from the intimate relations with a man, vehemently rejecting those considered normal by tradition. This rejection is not a simple option for these women, but their only sexual satisfaction. If the common heterosexual women generally dislike the eccentric sexual behavior, on the contrary, these women feel repulsion towards the normal sexual behavior. Most of them had unfortunate erotic experiences with normal men just because they wanted and practiced normal sexual relations. For this reason they want a docile man, somewhat with no initiative, to behave like a demanded sexual toy. So they also support the exclusive female courtship initiation. But they choose this option not so much for initiating the courtship as much as establishing rules for sexual intercourse, in much the same way as the women from the sexual appetite mismatch relationships.
Their main problem is finding a man willing to do in bed only the things they want, except this situation normal behavior. Some of them vehemently involve in the courtship initiation revolution activism for this particular need to have control over the sexual behavior in the couple, according to their libidinal structure. As women from the sexual appetite mismatch marriages want a more favorable negotiation, these also do not want to be forced to accept the normal sexual behavior from a man. By their activism they want to indirectly persuade him to have a specific behavior according to their fantasies. Of course, as usually happens in such situations, if he could be insightful enough so to guess their preferences, without having to name them and face the guilt feelings, then it would be wonderful ... It is worth pointing out here the case of the masochistic sexual behavior women, who paradoxically are extremely attracted to the specific physical abusers, but at the same time they are irreparably afraid of them and support the exclusive female courtship initiation theory. In some ways, their need to choose partners who are clever and skilful enough not to accidentally kill them after their torment request is justified. But, on the other hand, to complain about the male aggression during the day, and to warmly wish it at night, is rather strange...
The exclusive female courtship initiation theory is an excellent step to this goal. A man, who appears from nowhere on the street to initiate the courtship is probably the worst partner for these women erotic interests, under these conditions. If he initiates everything from the beginning, he seems unlikely that would be willing to play this role in bed that satisfies them, all the more so as some of them refuse the intercourse as most of us knows. For this reason, as in the case of the women with the sexual appetite discrepancy with their partner, the exclusive female courtship initiation proposal is favorable to these ones too. It can be a good start for a future proposal to allow women the right to dictate the behavior in the intimate relationships and to find a specific partner for their libidinal particularities.
I personally believe that such a right for women should be more clearly affirmed and popularized. Unfortunately they are the first ones who do not discuss directly with the partner, especially in the case of the sexual appetite discrepancy marriage, and prefer to make a much too pragmatic choice. The fear of public outrage after exposing his sexual preferences to entourage makes many lack the courage to have such a preliminary discussion. But it does not require the support of the legislation or the courtship rules for such thing, but just honesty with the partner and counteracting the eccentric sexual preferences community incrimination mentality, if it does not involve the crimes committing.
Another kind of story is in the case of the histrionic women that I have described in this article . Besides the disguised prostitutes, they are the most vehement activists of the revolution of the exclusive female courtship initiation, coming to consider the compliment and greeting from an unknown man as sexual harassment or attempted rape.
The classic histrionic or exhibitionist women have this vehemence not simply because of the mind cognitive-moral side, but because of their psychopathological predisposition. They need the social implementation of this exclusive female courtship initiation rule precisely to facilitate their interest in social ascension through the partner. They want to fish a rich man. The exclusive female courtship initiation theory comes to them as a glove in this interest. They refuse an approaching man on the street not because of the common women specific reasons, related to violating the courtship traditional prior rules. However, they do not care much about traditions. The main reason is precisely that that man is part of the street. The histrionic woman starts courting a man on the street if he appears to belong from an upper street social layer, a higher class member. And this rule does not refer to the street zone only but to any kind of social environment in which the two people can meet. In order for the histrionic woman to pay attention to her, the approaching man must necessarily be "classy", far superior to her social status.
A traditional mentality woman also refuses a social wealthy man approaching, or looks for security signs if she accepts the courtship. On the contrary, the histrionic one takes the risk of courtship accepting even from a potential rapist or a Casanova in favor of sticking to the chance of social ascension according to his status. If the unknown man initiating street courtship shows true passion, love at first sight, or approaching originality style, the common woman can pay attention to him, even if he does not belong to a higher social layer (within the limits of the traditional courtship pre-rule according to the class equivalence of which I have detailed here ). On the contrary, the histrionics automatically rejects him if doesn’t look like belonging to a social elite. His method is not good enough for her. The poetry is too "obsolete" and the common gesture is too "streety."
On the other hand, the new histrionics became exhibitionists. They behave like superpowerful and super-hot women, giving the impression that there is no good enough man to satisfy them sexually. But, in fact, they are actually frigid women. Deceitful by appearance, they intrigue and stimulate many to demonstrate their virility. After initially flirting and seducing, the exhibitionists change rapidly the path to victimization of a fictitious emotional aggression or rape, as soon as the seduced man responds to "their charms" by an attempt to initiate a love couple relationship.
Unlike the modern exhibitionists, the classical histrionic women play more as the intangible saints. In fact the two forms follow one after another in the evolution of human psychopathology according to the western mentality; the exhibitionism is the contemporary form of hysteria as we know it from the descriptions of classical psychopathologists. The classical hysteria sees the love relationships exclusively through the power frame. They accept marriages exclusively for the sake of social ascension, without genuine sexual life with the husband and without genuine maternal behavior, once the children have appeared. It is ironic that later they just describe trough their own projected abusive psychic content with an amazing fidelity the men's sexual abuses on women as a power exercise. The emotionally abusive men have a certain dose of histrionism in their psychopathological structure; so the description they make is based on their own psychic content projected into them. For this reason it is not at all wrong.
Last but not least, a courtship initiator who gives up as soon as the histrionic woman rejects him provokes her abandonment feeling that I’ve talked about in the article linked above. Thus, such an initiator is perceived by a histrionic woman as an abuser both if he stops the admiration and courting and also if continues. In the last case he even becomes a street harasser if keeps insisting on her constant refusal, according to different countries legislation. As is well known, this is the socializing with a histrionic person in general.
Whether exhibitionists or Victorians, the histrionic women bend their interests to the feminist rhetoric of protecting women from sexual and emotional abuse. Under the pretext of defending women's rights, they want to arrogate the institutions protection for these libidinal interests of seduction. Starting from the traditional misogynistic rhetoric of blaming the victims of sexual crimes, they have created their own feminist- histrionic rhetoric in which they present themselves as victims of sexual harassment for this kind of simple approach by a man through the compliment or greeting.
During this time in the United States there is a scandal for Morgan Freeman's remarks about certain women who interviewed him.
Of course, such comments to a woman dressed in decent, or not flirting back, would be inappropriate. But in this video we see provocative women exposing their parts close to the intimate ones, arranging their hair, crossing their legs or flirting with the actor. Well, although these flirtations are not actual exhibitionism, they are still provocative, even for an octogenarian. The reactions of the women concerned are quite conclusive, after he makes those remarks. To say that this is sexual harassment or inappropriate comments, as some feminists are now trying, even on behalf of those involved in them, and even without their permission (Tyra Martin), is at least an exaggeration. It is worth mentioning here the double standard by which the exhibitionist liberty is judged, as assumed by the "bitch philosophy" described by Elizabeth Wurtzel, against man's freedom to respond to such a challenge. In the first case, the woman exhibitionist liberty is presumed to be given axiomatically, while the men response liberty requires consent.
Another case of vehement activism is given by some disguised prostitutes who have seen bigger chances of winning more money if the feminist rhetoric would be applied. I also previously described them, in this article . Many of these women have histrionic or exhibitionistic tendencies, especially because they are not attached to their partner and have no satisfaction in sexual relations. In particular, they seek maximum gains from the simulation of the couple relationship. For this reason, if they reach a stable couple relationship, they change the main partner on criteria of material benefits, but they simulate a loving relationship with him, which is also an abuse by a direct or omission lie. They do not tell to the clients that they are not looking for a stable loving relationship with them, or that they simulate the falling in love or the orgasm during sexual intercourse. If these men would previously know that they are in the position of clients, then they would give up the intention of courting.
The weak men emotionally invest in that relationship these women throw away as soon as a more favorable opportunity arises. They try to fish rich and single men through shops, clubs, hotel lobbies, conference rooms, various events, etc. Their pick ups are blown by the middle-class men trying to court them. This prevents them from implementing their "business plans". Such a courtship revolution would open the horizon to the fishing liberties for such clients that would bring them bigger profits. Although they present themselves as victims, in fact they must be stopped in the committed abuses by the naive men through direct or omission lies, as in the case of the exhibitionists. This is favorable even to themselves, as they usually become the sadists victims who take advantage of their discretion and kill them without leaving a trace.
Another case of sexual minority support for the female courtship initiation revolution is made by some lesbians. They too, may use or alter in the psychopathological interest the feminist rhetoric. They do not want to seduce or gain material goods out of this, as in previous cases. Most militants want to take revenge on traditionalist heterosexuals, as they were persecuted in the past. The homosexuals are still more or less discriminated against and persecuted throughout the whole world today. Because of this, some lesbians prefer to hide their sexual orientation. The militancy in favor of this revolution of exclusive female courtship initiation is mainly caused by the need to get rid of these discriminations and persecutions that they risk.
On the basis of normal egalitarian feminism, which has been asserted since the beginning of the 20th century, the sexist part of the post 1990s feminism came to proclaim the moral or any other nature superiority of the woman over the man only because she is a woman. This can be called radical feminist activism in a different sense than the one with which some moderate feminists self-label themselves (I’ll come back to this issue latter here ). From my point of view the radical feminism is an inverted sexism. We see reverse sexism here. If the patriarchal mentality diminishes the woman just because she is a woman, so does the sexist feminism diminishing the man just because he is a man. According to this inverted feminism, the women would be kind of holy, just because they are women, in the same way in which the traditional patriarchal mentality excludes the woman from the altar of the church according to the prejudice that she would be impure, just because she is a woman *. Probably the most vehement case is that of lesbian feminist Julie Bindel, who in such a moment of inverted sexism, said she would put all men in a concentration camp https://www.splicetoday.com / politics-and-media / uk-radical-lesbian-feminist-wants-all-men-in-concentration-camps. Here's how, out of being discriminated, some women can become discriminatory.
Some other women do not need any activism because they have enough power in society, so they can counteract the discriminations. But there are others who more discreetly support the exclusive female courtship initiation revolution because they would be useful to them as well. They are not simply interested in sex with men. And if the exclusive female courtship initiation would be implemented in the whole of society, then they would not work to find all kinds of solutions to reject the advances coming from them, especially from the professional area. So they also embraced this theory as did the common women with discordant sexual appetite in the couple or those with eccentric sexual behavior, described above.
Another case of supporting the exclusive female courtship initiation revolution is that of the metatropic type relationship couples. These couples are made up of a manly woman and a feminized man, living according to this female courtship initiation revolution. Both of these types of man and woman couple are on the verge of homosexuality or bisexuality. These people have a structural predisposition toward the opposite sex behavior, but it is not strong enough in the psychic vector to cause homosexual or bisexual orientation. However, their relationship itself resembles that, although it is a heterosexual one. They are usually not involved in the feminist movement or any other kind of activism for its implementation. One can easily guess that in such a relationship it was not the man who initiated it, but the woman. Being a masculine woman herself, she does not attract men and rarely is approached by men. However, due to the physical and mental constitution it does not need the protection of institutions to reject such advances.
Finally, the last psychopathological type in which the psychic factor plays a determining role in the supporting the exclusive female courtship initiation theory is that of the paranoiac or paranoid (personality disorder) psychopathological constitution women. But this ideology is rather tangential for them. The women in this category do not see in the courtship peaceful initiator as sexual harasser or rapist, like the other two categories. For the persecution paranoid woman, this person is the president of the country (or the king in the monarchies), a very famous star or, the head of a major institution like the CIA, or the megacompanies. For the paranoid person this man is a serial killer, a government agent, spy or any member of a secret organization that wants to hurt her. In this type of ideation we see a typical sexual interest absence. All the paranoids are very sexually inactive, inversely proportional to their militant efforts for personal rights. Some paranoid men have a low sexual appetite but others of them have a high one. Most paranoid women have low sexual appetite.
But, the most important thing in the paranoiac and paranoid symptomatology is not so much the existence of the two disorders, but the fact that their estimation errors are sprinkled with incredible intuitions that reveal hidden truths about the human society. Much of these people's ideas come from their own aggressive, persecuting psychic content projection in the outside world. But, just as in the case of histrionics, who manage to faithfully identify the sexual abuse as an exercise of power only by their own projection, in the same way the paranoids manage to find these truths. The great paradox of these mental disorders is that the psychopathological factor precisely makes them see things that the social pyramid top class systematically hides. We are talking here about a kind of phenomenology psychopathologically applied.
These two disorders are able to correctly identify the profile of the greatest danger that a unknown person can be to the women. Not even the ordinary paranoid persons are completely wrong with his extravagant idea. In contemporary society there are serial killers, just like the ones the most of the times the paranoid people misidentify in some suspects. Some of the suspected ones happen to really be criminals. They walk freely among us and, from time to time, a paranoid person names them as such. But unfortunately no one believes it. So finally the paranoid "madness" seems to make sense, eventually.
And yet, both the paranoiac and the paranoid are closer to the truth than the other cases mentioned above. The seductive histrionics, the sexist lesbians or the disguised prostitutes from the previous group are governed by their own libidinal or financial interests. Unlike them, the paranoids, both women and men, are able to see from the basic personal projection the true danger for women and for men too situated at the social pyramid base. The president is (at least at the declarative level) the head of state. And, as long as the state is still oppressive towards citizens, the paranoiac is generally not mistaken at all. (What the paranoiac does not know is that the state elected or appointed president usually assumes the responsibility for policies thought out elsewhere, not by him.) In the same way, on the violated human rights areas streets there are secret agents whose basic interest is not so much the citizen protection, as declared, but its most effective serfdom.
The only judgment issue of the persecution form paranoiacs is the fact that they see sadists where do not exist not and don’t see those who really are sadists. Both the persecution paranoiacs and the paranoids are often misled in their interpretations that are stalked by various agents, such as the traumatic phobics or the histrionics that see a peaceful street courtship initiator as a sexual harasser, offender or rapist. The president or other well-known public figures, whom the persecution paranoiac accuses of harassment, do not even know or met her/him before. In the same way, neither the paranoiac 's entourage, or his neighbors, or the people on the street he accidentally ran into, are not spies or paid by the government killers. Certain openness to epistemology and logics turns the paranoid psychopathological structure into truth searching, as this very expression platform on which you read this text. Informing and shaping the arguments after the evidence makes many paranoid good investigation journalists.
Many moderate or radical feminists have paranoid tendencies. I have demonstrated with the structuralist method that inside the paranoid psychopathology there are histrionic contents. Unfortunately, histrionic women are too blinded by their libidinal bubble to see the danger that feminist paranoids see correctly, although not very clearly. They are very close to describing by psychopathological projection the women most serious problems in the society. Unfortunately, without strong arguments for their attitudes and ideas, many find no support in the feminist movement and are isolated or cease joining it. Their ideas and women problems solving proposals are sometimes at least bizarre. This is what happened to Jenny McDermott, who in the following video unequivocally said that the mothers should kill their young baby boys so that they would not segregate women in the future, and that any man should be killed.
Of course, the feminist movement has largely ruled out such an ultra-radical position. This is generally the case with paranoids ideas, especially because they cannot socialize, suspecting everyone of conspiracies against them. However, some of the paranoid women support feminist ideas and participate in marches to defend the women rights as "independent", after the breakup from the feminist movement.
* Yes, when blindly fall in love, we men initiate such inverted sexism ourselves. But this cannot be imposed by ideological command, as it comes at a certain point in life. A lucid analysis refutes this, and the statistics show that most fallen in love men will surely find out about this at some point.
c) The psychopathological background in the exclusive female courtship initiation theory argumentation dynamics
In this last part of this subsection I intend to show the psychopathological dynamics of feminist reasons in advocating for the exclusive female courtship initiation theory. As I mentioned at the beginning, I do not intend to insinuate the certain reasons invalidity just because they directly come from the psychopathological background. These reasons exist and have validity independently from the psychopathological background that folds on them. I will discuss about their scientific side in the following articles on this topic. For now, I just want to show how the psychopathological background of these vehement feminists can influence this dynamic of argumentation.
All these described above 7 psychopathological profiles support the exclusive female courtship initiation theory not only because of the sociological or political reasons, but also because of the personal psychopathological distortions. The most visible among them are the disguised prostitutes and the Victorian or exhibitionist histrionics. They are also the most vehement in supporting this revolution of the courtship initiation. As seen in the previous article, the explanation for their vehemence lies in abusive personal interests of extending their emotional, libidinal or financial nature personal liberties, and even getting institutions protection for this. The greater predisposition these women have towards the emotional abuse, the more vehement they are in activism for the implementation of this revolution.
These people should not be confused with the activists for the marginal people and the socially disadvantaged rights, who can also support the exclusive female courtship initiation theory, but for a different reason than the psychopathological (for the histrionics) or the pragmatic interest (for the disguised prostitutes). They advocate this revolution for the simple reason that women must be over-advantaged in order to be even after gender discrimination they were and still are subjected to. Paradoxically, the sexist histrionics and the lesbian activists even tend to reject such an argument, although they formally accept it due to the same cause belonging. But their main argument is that of the female gender superiority over male and the universal victimization that manifests itself through the tendency to massively accuse all men of attempting rapists.
Faced with the counterarguments or the contrary evidence to their theories, the vehement feminists remain in position, refusing even minor adjustment of their activism to their theory contrary data. Unlike the phobias from the group a), which theoretically accept the statistical data, here is a strategy that acts through the refusal stubbornness. Such a strategy is caused by the specific psychopathological predisposition. It is not structured on the Traumatic Complex running form, as in the first category, but on the counter-attack. In the first category, the primary benefit of the mental disorder is more involved, as the secondary benefit in the latter. The phobic women described in the category a) can theoretically accept the ideas regarding the statistical data on the minor danger coming from a courtship peaceful street initiator of in the populated public space. But they cannot correlate these data with the phobic deep psychic predisposition.
On the contrary, those women from this category are immune to scientific data, not accepting it at the theoretical level also. Their theoretical opacity towards counterarguments is a Bovaristic theoretical manifestation specific to the histrionic psychopathology. During the debates with the ideological opponents the vehement feminists use ad hominem type sophisms, or invoke the lack of honesty from the research institutes or institutions that have released statistics or data contrary to their theories. We will see in the next article that these institutions that publish statistics do indeed do some omissions, encouraging the majority of citizens to adopt false ideas about the criminality. But the data provided is not false, just incomplete. A society like the American one has many flaws, but in no case is it a classic dictatorship in which data is falsified.
Other times, the radical feminists completely ignore these statistical data as if they didn't exist. This doesn’t happen in other situations that support their ideology. For example, these people constantly call for statistics when homosexuals are unfairly associated with child rapists; they show great confidence in the statistical data that shows the appreciation error of those who make this confusion. But they become totally opaque about statistics about the wrong association of the street or the online conversation initiators with rapists and sexual harassers. Their main argument in this debate is that of the rare courtship street initiator that becomes aggressive after the woman refuses to accept the courtship. They use these rare cases in such a way that in the argumentation dynamics they are given a sort of universal statistic. Also, the causal relationship between the initiation of the court and the aggression that follows in this low percentage case is erroneously constructed. We observe here a double standard in the use of statistical materials, which is a secondary benefit of obtaining higher liberties in exhibiting their sexual options without being disturbed, as described in this article .
Their remarkable psychopathological constitution makes them special and that is found in their vehement activism. Although they are a minority in relation to the other feminist movement members, however, some of them become highly respected within the community and impose a majority view. The movement colleagues and even the male followers perceive their activism as a selfless and empathetic dedication to the sexual abuses victims. In this political endeavor, they can train real sexual abuse victims and their close entourages into the movement. All of them want the legislation to be more oppressive towards rapists and abusers in general. I have previously shown that the unhappy wives over the sexual appetite discrepancy with their husbands in the marital relationship also feel discomfort in such situations. So they could be influenced by their proposal. But beyond this superficial justification, they have much more complex psychopathological interests than the basic empathy for the sexual abuse victims on behalf of whom they speak. Their ability to fold their symptoms on the general feminism justified interests or partially on the traditional mindset is amazing. But, after detailed analysis, they prove to be at contraire towards them.
Then the normal women are also tempted to adhere to the sexist feminism initiated by the histrionic and lesbian psychopathological conformation women, although they do not have the same psychodynamic motivation. That is why they are more flexible under the theoretical reasoning. But this kind of feminism also bring benefits to them in different social relationships towards men, in the sense that they think they are receiving more positive discrimination. And indeed, as I will show in the following articles, women need overprotection from society regarding the violence they are subjected to. Only, as I will also show later on, these radical ideas, such as the exclusive female courtship initiation or the men mass prosecution as rapists, do not protect them. On the contrary, these ideas can turn into isolating them, which is what happens with the radical feminism. The common women can adopt radical ideas under the influence of other community members. But, unlike these, they generally respond to arguments. After legislation reasoning debates, they give up the idea of incriminating the street courtship initiator, and reposition themselves in the dynamics of argumentation. Some of them only require a change of perspective regarding the good manners, but not legal incrimination. The answering to the reasoning and the willingness to adjust one's own theories to it is an important criterion for the moderate side of feminism differentiation from the radical side.
The feminists who support the exclusive female courtship initiation theory, whether are vehement or moderate, clearly differentiate from the conservative-minded women, who do not accept an unknown courtship initiator because this violates the first two prior traditional courtship rules that I have detailed here . Such a conservative woman does not support the exclusive female courtship initiation proposal either, because it violates them too. In fact, the women lifestyle in this category is far from a traditionalist one. They assume the traditional rules violation, including those prior to courtship. Because of this the feminism has come into conflict with the traditional feminine mentality, and has brought factions within the feminism itself.
The existence of psychopathological contents in the genesis of a reason does not weaken its validity. Normally the psychopathological background strengthens the power of an argument. But the bovaristic histrionism can sometimes create theoretical isolationism. And for this reason I wrote these two articles. The histrionic influence nullifies this fertility generated by the psychopathological background. In this case it creates theoretical opacity for these radical activists. Beyond their predisposition for abuse, the debate on the exclusive female courtship initiation has solid sociological and political arguments on both sides. In the following articles I will put them face to face and try to draw a conclusion to this very complicated problem of contemporary judgment.
In the next article I will also analyze their proposal of exclusive female courtship initiation in relation to the biological nature and the traditional mentality.
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