3. The natural consent abuses within the intimate relationships
3.2. The disguised prostitution
2. The next level of transmitting nonviolent couple abuse in the body of the social pyramid is not telling to the client that she/he is actually paying for prostitution. If the imposed polygamy is practiced by the top of the social pyramid, or by those with above the average wealth, disguised prostitution is practiced by its mid level. Sometimes it is even the response to the privileged ones social predisposition to buy women’s natural consent. Because of this, it is practiced by both sexes, as I said in the previous article, but mostly by women. The imposed polygamist is willing to pay a large sum of money to turn a decent woman into a prostitute. On the contrary, the person who practices disguised prostitution does not afford this. In fact, it is not willing to pay any money for having prostitution sex with the other person. On the contrary, she/he is the one who takes a lot of money from the victim, who does not suspect that is emotionally extorted as a client. Here is a first differentiation from the imposed polygamy: the abused person does not know in the case of disguised prostitution that she/he is a client. In the first case, she knows this, but she cannot resist the material goods temptation and artificially gives her consent to the abuser. Another differentiation is that in the imposed polygamy case, there might be a 3-rd person who is the most abused, having an official relationship with the abuser, as girlfriend or wife. On the contrary, in the disguised prostitution case, there is not a third person and the most abused is the client.
The woman who practices undeclared prostitution to the client can pursue such a polygamous man to exchange natural consent for the material goods she can take from him. But in many other cases, she is not looking for a polygamist, but an inexperienced man for seducing him to fall in love with her and then trick him for material goods. If the hidden prostitute woman can sometimes pursue a forced polygamy, on the contrary, the hidden prostitute man does not follow a polygamous woman. In general, the women do not pay for sexual services, but simply accept courtship from men who are interested in them. He follows a lonely woman, eager for a loving relationship. In both cases, the abuser offers sexual services that the victim overestimates as an emotional attachment. In other words, the abuser sells its fake emotional attachment to the victim that generally is above him on the social pyramid scale. So here is another differentiation from imposed polygamy, where the abuser is generally on a higher level in this hierarchy!
There is a difference between the normal couple's attachment to a wealthy partner and the disguised prostitution. The fact that a materially wealthy person can obtain more easily consent for the couple's relationship is natural. On the contrary, in the case of disguised prostitution, the main criterion for entering or leaving a couple relationships is only the short-term material gain. The main interest for building the relationship is the possibility of later material gain, as a result of financial help for a fictional problem (mainly used by men), divorce or inheritance (mainly used by women), as I will detail below. The practicing disguised prostitution person simulates the couple's relationship or willingness to enter into it and to help to consolidate it. But both the man and the woman who practices it take off such a relationship without any regret when given the chance for bigger material gain into another. This does not usually happen in the normal attachment case to a wealthy person. Only the pressures coming from a polygamous person from the top of the social pyramid can make the normal attachment one to totally or provisionally leave the couple relationship in which they belong. Persoana care practica prostitutia mascata gaseste trei motive pentru a abandona relatia:
The person who practices disguised prostitution finds three reasons to abandon the relationship:
- a. amplifies some minor misunderstandings with the partner, although easily got over them in the past;
- b. invokes the getting through a depressive or other medical episode and the need for a temporary relationship suspension, without accepting the help of the partner;
- c. invokes the need for spiritual evolution that implies a "genuine", de-sexualized life, although it continues in the new relationship.
In the first case, the disguised prostitution person does not accept any dialogue to solve these problems further and save the couple. In the other two cases the depressive disorder, the illness or the spirituality suddenly disappear with the new relationship. Such practices are abuses of the partner's trust and expectations; the interest of those who do such a thing is not the couple formation and consolidation, but the accelerated and unjustified social ascension, through the partner. It is only seen as a stepping stone, thus stimulating its anxiety of separation after.
The disguised prostitution must also be differentiated from the irreconcilable incompatibilities inside the couple. A very accelerated evolution on the socio-professional scale, a political radicalization, or a psychopathological (depressive or other) and / or medical breakdown of one of the couple members is a justifiable reason for incompatibility and separation. But this episode repeating is likely to mask prostitution. Stepping through several intimate relationships and abandoning them, with the social status constant increasing and without the abuser accelerated professional evolution, or without radical changes in the mentality and the partner health or mental state, becomes susceptible to that. Such an "evolution" questions the honesty of these alleged irreconcilable incompatibilities in the couple. This looks more or less like this hidden form of prostitution.
Also, the disguised prostitution must be differentiated from the prostitution itself. Even if in some countries it is illegal, due to certain prejudices or their totalitarian tendencies, however, its open practicing, the price communication and the rendered services makes it a free trade. But the person that pays for emotional services in the case of disguised prostitution does not know that the partner's attachment is conditioned by these payments. This is illegal in economic exchanges. The consumer law clearly states that any service provider must provide detailed information to customers about its services. Usually the emotionally deceived person would not accept to pay for this. That person is deceived to act according to a family member, as the abuser simulates the behavior of being a part of a normal family with the victim. Any member of a normal family materially helps another member who is going through a difficult time, or who wants to bring them joy. The abuser simulates the family relationship and causes the victim to believe that it is a natural thing. By the time the victim learns about the abuser's strategy, it would already have spent a considerable amount of money, thus being scammed.
Next I will detail the action methods of both men and women who practice disguised prostitution.
The disguised prostitute man initiates amorous relationships with marginal women, who are not complimented and who lack very much the intimacy. As true hunters, they initiate the relationship, simulate intense love, establish emotional connections with the victim, and then blackmail her with the separation threatening. This blackmail is directly or indirectly done, under different pretexts such as serious problems in the family, problems in the professional activity or dedication of a noble purpose such as saving children, endangered species, etc. The woman tries to help and ends up offering him the financial help he had been following since the beginning. He can thus scum more women at the same time.
With the internet social networks development, a real industry of financial scamming of unsafe or inexperienced women in communication has thrived. Users in Africa or East Asia download various photos from social media profiles belonging to well-positioned real men from rich Western countries. Then they make fake profiles from those photos. With those fake profiles, they go then online for that kind of lower social status women or those who live into lower economic countries. Soon they begin to "attach" to the victim and vice versa. After an enthusiastic romance promising, at one point the victim will get the eternal message like "I am on X island and my luggage was stolen, send me some money so I can get home!". And from here, the victim s asked for a whole bunch of services until she starts doubting the online partner's honesty.
A more organized form of disguised male prostitution is pimping. The pimp is spending time with the future prostitute, literally "investing" in it. He buys her clothes, food, jewelry and more, thus earning her confidence and love. But this moment is only the stage of the investment. He waits until the woman completely breaks off ties with her family and friends and encourages her to make such radical decisions in order to become totally dependent on him. After the woman breaks off with her family, he begins to exploit her discreetly, forcing her to have sex with other men. This is the time of maturity, when the woman practically makes a profit from the initial investment. Being in the situation of not having an alternative, the woman stays in this relationship for years until it is no longer profitable. The pimp then moves on to the next victim.
The disguised prostitute woman simulates belonging to a higher social class to establish connections with different people of the same social level. The hidden prostitutes are very mobile in different social environments for getting the "target", although they do not come from families at this level. These women presence in those high status public places is due solely to the interest of "hanging" a rich man in order to make him in love with her and from which to have the greatest material benefits. In the long run, they are pursuing a marriage that raises them up on the social hierarchy. But, in the absence of finding a rich and naive suitor, they are satisfied with "lower" remuneration, which is still very expensive for a middle-class man. So, for a longer or shorter period, they can practice luxury prostitution for "refined and discreet gentlemen." That's why they hate being approached by a middle-class man.
Those with lower ambitions are even employed as "entertainers" in different venues, clubs, gyms or other such places, simply as persons who attracts the potential clients, namely the men who want adventure. Wanting to impress such an "employee" they buy as many products from there. These women receive a monthly fee precisely depending on how seductive they are with the naive ones who think they can conquer them.
Regardless of whether they are luxury hookers or cheer girls, these women are just as deceptive as affective scams because they do not talk about their actual "job". They deceitfully behave like high-ranking women who want to find their half but can't find it. From a distance they seem like wandering goddesses on earth, among mortals who are bellow their match. As looking like saints, some men fall in love with them and are ready to throw their wealth at their feet. For some of them, such a deception to which they are caught is the last one.
A very dangerous phenomenon of disguised prostitution, still at the beginning, but constantly growing in Western society, especially in the US, is the "morning after regret". Before going into details about its manifestation, I would first like to describe a type of veiled rape (practiced by some men) to which this abuse of fake victims has adapted. It consists in putting sleeping pills in the women's drinks at parties, followed by abducting them when are intoxicated or unconscious to have sex with, as they cannot clearly express their consent. In the below video we see such an social experiment.
The feminists are right when they complain about this kind of consent abuse. But, furthermore, there are rapists who deliberately the use psychoactive substances to bring women into this state of vulnerability. Playing the role of the close to the victim person as she is unable to convince passers-by of the contrary, the rapists only draw attention to them as brothers, lovers or unlucky spouses. The woman is seen as depraved. Basically it is the same crime that is committed against children, lured by different compensations to accept sexual relations. At their age they still cannot give consent for sex due to their immaturity. In the same conditions the woman cannot give her consent. In countries with social systems closer to the classical dictatorship, this is not punished by the legal system. It is considered to be the woman’s duty to protect herself and not to relate with strangers. In the democratic tradition societies that is considered discrimination, but this argument is not very strong. The main criterion for taking this behavior as a crime is the lack of intoxication episodes with psychoactive substances. The only fact that a woman loses her control for the first time after ingesting such substances is unnatural, and hides this rape of intoxication.
I think the circumstances in which the woman has reached the euphoria or sleepiness mental state should be clearly specified. If she is at a party or in a certain place and orders a non-alcoholic or low-alcoholic drink, which brings her close to an alcoholic coma then it is clear clue that someone has discreetly slipped dangerous substances into her glass. Here are the signs of a rape. Not the same thing happens in other cases of women who profess charging men with gang rape in order to obtain material benefits from them. But if the woman willingly goes to a man's house and consumes psychoactive substances side by side, this means assuming the consequences that follow from weakening the man's self-control, then I think this is not rape.
The use of psychoactive substances in the privacy of a man's house often leads to weakening inhibitions and to such an event. The woman must be cautious about these steps she does with a man and stop in time if she wants things not to move on between her and that man. I think it is her duty to keep her control and not to overdo it with alcohol, just as exhibitionist women should practice their vice elsewhere than in the dangerous areas where there is a risk of rape. It is a universal rule of the relationship between the sexes. The naked female body causes the man an irresistible sex-drive arousal, and the loss of control occurs when the sexual instinct invades the behavior. Also, there is no rape when such a thing happens in a public place, inside a group of friends.
There are situations in which this happens between old friends; the woman wants a long time love affair over that of friendship, but the man only wants a night adventure. In retaliation for her wounded pride, the woman accuses him the next day of rape by rape of intoxication, by the so-called phenomenon of morning after regret. There are men who simulate the friendship with desirable women for a love affair just to get to this point. There are men who are more interested in polygamy wrapped in what is called "friendship with benefits", without the traditional responsibilities of the couple. Their fault in this situation is that they do not directly say in the woman lucidity moments that they want to have a short affair with her. But, not even the woman who enters this game clearly tells the man that she wants a classic relationship before the euphoria state caused by the ingestion of psychoactive substances. It is certain that, after the accomplished fact, she does not accept an open relationship and accuses him of rape after such a night of party.
In this case, the man should tell the woman from the very beginning that he is polygamous, or that he is seeing someone else that does not want to leave and only wants a temporary adventure from her. But his abuse is not rape. A group of friends voluntarily consumed psychoactive substances or the woman voluntarily went to that man's house and consumed such substances by mutual consent. I am not talking here about the eccentric sexual behaviors that the woman did not consent to, which is the subject of another discussion . But morning after regret is not about this situation.
But, in addition to the abusive man who is trying to force the woman's natural consent for sex, there are also women who are trying to force the man's natural consent to enter into a traditional couple relationship through this wild parties back door. This is not the best way to start something in general. The woman should avoid these parties until the couple welds and each knows what they want from the other. Otherwise, when she notices that the partner does not want to enter into a long time love affair, she changes her strategy and accuses him of rape. It is very difficult here to see from whom the abuse comes, or which one is bigger. In Romania and probably in many of the Eastern Europe countries and many more, there is practiced forced marriage by a judge as a result of a classic rape, occurred under sobriety. Even if it did not manifest itself as rape, as a freely agreed relationship, the justice forced the man in these countries to marry the departed woman, as the virginity was considered a major virtue and its loss a handicap.
As I have seen, many US judges convict a man of rape on the morning after regret basis, thus being held responsible for both partners losing control over ingestion of psychoactive substance. It is unnatural that the woman who did the same thing is acquitted of all responsibilities and the man is punished as guilty. It is also true that the women need to be overprotected, but not so positively discriminated that it reaches the extremes, with the man declared guilty and the woman innocent. It does not seem normal to me for a man only to be punished. In this case it seems to me an inverted jihad: if in some Arab countries the woman is punished after being raped, now in the West we get to punish the man because the woman does not take care enough of her body.
Of course, things didn't stop there. This judges predisposition to punish the intoxication rape practiced by some men, in the Western world this "morning after regret" phenomenon becomes increasingly visible , which actually hides a disguised prostitution. Two types of women came out to use the feminist rhetoric for the typical financial interests of the disguised prostitutes or the typical radical feminist revenge on men. I will describe it in more detail here . In this last case they plays this role from the position of radical feminists who wants to punish Casanova men, which I will detail describe in the following article . They are not primarily interested in material rewards, but does not refuses them either. I will detail this idea later . They simulate good mood, possibly even consume a few glasses of alcohol, then hang wealthy men and after that get involved into intimate relationships with them. The disguised prostitutes are interested in a profit relationship. If the men prove that they do not have enough money to satisfy their needs after the sex is consummated, then these women start trials based on the fact that they would have taken advantage of their hangover status to have sex. As a result of this planned "regret", these women accuses the man of rape and receives compensation.
The criteria for discovering such women must be firm. In all the cases of this kind I have encountered on the internet, the man wants a relationship with the one who accuses him of rape, but she is the one who refuses. This detail is somewhat unnatural, as she agreed from the start to consume psychoactive substances with him, which announced the imminence of sexual relations. This kind of changing mind must also be differentiated from the woman’s later refusal after the man tried to practice eccentric sexual behavior on her. Here is a huge difference from the abusive man, in search of a “friends with benefits” relationship with his female colleagues or friends, but not a classic couple relationship. Some men still do not understand these women sneaky strategy and even want to remain in a loving relationship with them, even though are being sued by them. Of course, these women sneaky are not interested in this, but in the maximum profit or revenge. That is why they are claiming compensations in court.
Things must be judged very carefully here! In the case of disguised prostitutes, there must be clarified whether the woman who makes rape charges really deserves her social status, respectively after being a member of a wealthy family or after a well paid job. It is not possible for an unemployed woman who has several years of experience in different jobs, and possibly with bad references from colleagues, to live higher standard of living, compared to the average employees’ community. There's a hint that she practices disguised prostitution. And a rape charges from such a woman should rather bring her own to the judicial investigations on how she has accumulated that wealth.
In addition to the abuse of the profession non-communication inside the institutions there is a risk of a new type of corruption consolidating through the disguised prostitution. It is the reverse of the intra-institutional sexual harassment that I have analyzed here . This is just as dangerous as that because it indirectly involves it; the potential abusive man can get the idea to apply it in the work relationships. If in this link described case the man is harassing the woman through different obstacles in the workplace to prevent her from advancing, in the case of disguised prostitution, she initially tries to seduce him so to have sex with and then blackmail him to facilitate access to an undeserved position or some kind of reward, under the charge of rape under the "morning after regret" turned into next month after regret.
Well that's how it happened with some of the #metoo accusers who brought rape charges as a result of the past year regret or even the last century regret ... They tried to use their seductive talents to receive one role or another, and were eventually refused. After seeing that they did not get the proper payment, they changed the rhetoric into the rape of the last century regret. Of course, the Hollywood producers and filmmakers are beasts in giving such women false clues, making them believe that they "might get it", as I mentioned in that link. But if you as an actress get into this dangerous game of real-life poker, described in the above histrionic-like manipulations, you risk losing. And that’s what happened to them.
In the next article I will also analyze the third category of nonviolent abusers of couples, respectively the histrionic-like seductive behavior people
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