3.3. The abuses of histrionic-like seductive behavior

3.3. The abuses of histrionic-like seductive behavior

sociologie Baldovin   10:25

3. The natural consent abuses within the intimate relationships 

3.3. The abuses of histrionic-like seductive behavior  

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The seductive behavior of the histrionic-like type is the next step of the abuses of the natural consent in the couple, downwards on the social scale. They were launched from the beginning of the classical society (based on the conquest war) by the top of the social pyramid on the sexual targets in the lower social layers. The difference between these abuses reflects the difference between the social classes to which they are connected to. As we saw in the previous article , the forced polygamy and disguised prostitution bring significant material gains. The person who practices disguised prostitution ceases the act of seduction and stays in the relationship until a greater opportunity arises. It becomes a decent monogamous person after she gets married, according to its social ascension desire. Only when the opportunity for bigger material benefit in another relationship arises does, then it responds to the wealthier partner sexual advances.

On the contrary, the seductive behavior of the steroid type is rather a self-suggestive-psychopathological play. Among the criteria presented by DSM V for the "Histrionic personality disorder" 301.50 (F60.4) the numbers 2, 5 and 8 are relevant, namely:

“(2) Seductive or provocative behavior
(4) Uses appearance to draw attention
(8) Considers relationships more intimate than they are”

DSM IV TR had more explicit criteria from the same numbers 2, 4 and 8, so I quote them too so people that are not used to histrionic simptomatology will understand it better

" (2) interaction with others is often characterized by inappropriate sexually seductive or provocative behavior
(4) consistently uses physical appearance to draw attention to self
(8) considers relationships to be more intimate than they actually are

The histrionic person is generally a seducer. Whether male or female, the histrionics seduce around and wait for the love flow to come from the "source", without engaging in building couple relationship with the "victim". Very important in the case law are some defining characteristics of hysteria, namely the theatrical behavior, the simulation or the bovarism, as can be seen starting from the page 292 of this book. 

People in this category are not primarily interested in material gains, though they would not refuse it. For this reason, if the histrionic like persons enter into a couple relationship, its partner is necessarily a member of a higher class. If the histrionic is also a physically attractive person, then it could temporary practice the disguised prostitution. But the difference with the disguised prostitute relies on the fact that it does not put the material gain on the foreground, but the very act of seduction, which manifests almost instinctively, unconsciously. These people constantly continue their seductive behavior towards entourage even after marriage and even if they do not have the prospect of entering into a more materially beneficial relationship. Unlike the disguised prostitute, the seductive histrionic does not have the intelligence or emotional readiness to stop seducing other members of the entourage, which eventually may affect their marriage.

Through the seduction behavior, the histrionic becomes drunk with the illusion of belonging to higher elite, which he understands as emotionally abusive towards others. It does not practice the above abuses because of lacking the experience of social life itself, and does not possess the specific tools to practice it. Its social origin relies on the medium or modest layer of the social pyramid scale. Its dominance over others is lived by on the symbolic, illusory level. This illusion is far more important to her/him than putting into practice these interests, on the opposite to the forced polygamous person from the top of the social pyramid or those who practice disguised prostitution. The histrionic sees the seduction as an act of power over the seduced one. The availability of satisfying the desires of the love partner is perceived as a specific weakness at a lower level of the social pyramid scale.

Although they theatrically mimic the affection for the own entourage or the "high circles" members, the histrionics do not fall in love precisely out of this visceral fear of social inferiority, by which the affection is equivalent to the weakness. If a member of the entourage is indifferent to its "charms," then the histrionic, whether male or female, might develop anger or hostility toward that person. (This is why the histrionic is often mistaken by common people with the explosive personality disorder.) The explanation of such behavior lies exactly in the refusal to accept the seductive submission from the indifferent person. The histrionic person seductive power confirms at the symbolic level the Bovarist belonging to a higher social class. It perceives the entourage refusal of seduction as the refusal to accept its high class status.

When any member of the entourage is caught in its charms nets, the histrionic person responds with superior, arrogant and contemptuous attitude. Its rejection is not indifference, but domination, according to its mentality of equating the seduction with the power. As I mentioned above, this behavior is meant to confer on the self-delusional level the social superiority status. These persons actually pursue a certain autoerotic social position reflected in the potential partner. If the "victim" enters into another relationship, after a certain period, then it is perceived by the histrionic person as a traitor and detractor, worthy of being severely punished. As in the case of the seduction immunity, the one who points to another partner after being rejected is treated with hostility after its interest has ceased. These people are perceived by histrionic as contestants of the illusory social status that nourishes their Bovarism.

Whether woman or man, the histrionic likes negativism. Both strangely live the satisfaction of "yes" through "no", and of "no" through "yes". The histrionic men leave the woman they simulate a love relationship with precisely because they have this bizarre satisfaction with the feeling of staying together through a new conquest. They are Casanova. The histrionic women have this satisfaction before they reach a couple relationships. Both the histrionic woman and man paradoxically suck up the satisfaction from the suffering of the departed or rejected partner.

Further on I will detail these general characteristics applied to the particularities of each genre.

The Casanova men (pick up artists) are those histrionics who are physically attractive, machos. Almost all of them practice body-building exercises, not so much for health as for keeping themselves "fit" for seduction. Like the histrionic woman, the Casanova man is also not interested in building a stable long-term couple relationship, but in seduction and subsequent abandonment. The sexual engagement with as many women as possible is a major goal of his life. The Casanova man sees the woman only as a trophy, and eventually will leave her for another woman just because this is another, after a period of simulated couple relationship. He just wants to have fun and change women like clothes. By such behavior, these men illusively reinforce their self-esteem, experiencing the feeling of being an alpha male with access to the related female group, as is the case with certain animals. Such behavior corrupts the idea of intimacy in favor of the illusion of a consumerist pop star or VIP, that can have every partner may wish, as I have shown in the previous article about the forced polygamy .

These two types of abuse psychic mechanisms are almost identical. The difference relies in the better socially position for the forced polygamy abuser who can afford gifts to obtain the victim's natural consent, while the Casanova one rarely makes gifts due to his inferior social position. The undeclared polygamous man wants to simulate a temporary family without an official one, and the Casanova man wants to seduce as much women as possible and have sex with them. The polygamous man does not want quantity, like Casanova, but quality. He only chooses a woman because she seems very special to him, and then he begins to draw her into a relationship.

Through his continued conquests, the Casanova man maintains the illusion of belonging to social elite, such as the rich polygamous man or the world’s richest men that can have any woman they wish. The more the conquered woman is more beautiful and better socially positioned, the more credible is the self-delusion that he would be a god on earth. Of course, this has a very negative emotional impact on the woman cheated or abandoned for a new catch.



If he is smart also and knows how to temper himself with seductive poses, the Casanova man can become an affective shark who practices disguised prostitution, a manager or a politician. If he is not smart, then he can become an artist with greater or lesser success in the public; the seductive behavior comes as a glove over this profession.

The histrionic women consume their eroticism in the flirtation area, without advancing to sexual relationship, as opposed to the erotic histrionic man (Casanova). They just want to seduce only and not reach the couple status or physical contact. They do not like to move forward in a relationship, and when they do, they are not happy in it. These women accept to become spouses especially for the high social status husband. Like the Casanova man, they can even get from time to time into disguised prostitution, when the material gains are very consistent. They don't like normal sex life but can accept it as a compromise in marriage or in temporary relationships. The seductive histrionic woman is an anti-Casnova probably because of the feminine resistance to male advances traditional culture. If educated, the histrionic women may adopt a feminist mentality, sometimes with extremist excesses. (The opposite is not valid - not every feminist is also a histrionic person) But, just like the Casanova man, who has the paradoxical satisfaction of remaining in a relationship after leaving, the histrionic woman paradoxically experiences the feeling of advancement in a couple's relationship by rejecting anyone’s advances. Due to the fact that they look like saints, sometimes many men fall in love with them and waste their wealth trying to get their attention. Their refusal is paradoxical and constantly doubled by their concern for showing the best and provoking the most intense passions and sufferings.

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The histrionic exhibitionist abuses

A very special case of histrionic-like behavior is made by the exhibitionist libidinal conformation persons. It consists in the libidinal satisfaction of publicly exposing the primary or secondary sexual anatomical parts in front of unknown persons. Both men and women with such behavior have the bizarre libidinal satisfaction of the victim's shock. Neither men nor women exhibitionists are interested in sexual relations with their victims. If such an exhibitionistic behavior man attracts a woman, and she show signs of interest, then he simply gets away, avoiding the relationship *.

In the same way, the exhibitionist women will not have sex with the men they want to shock. They are provocative by definition. They do not want to enter into a relationship, but only to provocatively remain at this stage of seduction before the physical contact. Basically their "sexual" life is based on the psychic abuse. They are addicted to it like a drug addict person. The man who does not respond to the histrionic woman charms is the biggest enemy of her "sex life" lived purely on flirtation. From this feature her explosive reactions of anger were equated with common language with hysteria. The exhibitionist women do not behave like exhibitionist men especially because of the risk of being raped. Because of this, most of them are focused supporters of exclusively female initiation of intimate relationships, and even advocate for incriminating as sexual harassers the men who initiate first contact with an unknown woman by compliment or greet. In order to manifest themselves freely, they need a protective framework such as sexy clubs, theaters or other institutions. Sometimes they work in the adult film industry, but they have more erotic satisfaction from the film crew that look from outside than from what their partner does with them in the scene.

In civilized countries, the female exhibitionism has been paradoxically used to reinvigorate the worn out couple relationships for the upper classes members but also to provoke an emotional imbalance to those in the lower classes, according to the interest I have detailed here. The marriage is a specific compromise to the traditional society between the sexes social development tendencies. No matter how successful and how welded a couple might be, it will invariably go through certain worn out crises. They particularly come after the female libido turns in motherhood. Then, they also appear due to the instinctual-ancestral male sexuality intention to experience sexual relations with other partners, which creates insecurity for the wife. Some men do not feel well in the couple and get divorced in order to get involved in another relationship. Others practice disguised polygamy. But most of them use the flirtation as a symbolic, illusory marital escape, not actually putting it into practice, with the maintenance of official marriage.

That is why the flirtation and/or even the exhibitionist behavior were encouraged by the Western culture. The women felt so free to dress as provocatively and attractively, to the delight of the audience. Thus it was created, at the symbolic level, the satisfaction of a reunion, without the couple official relationship to be affected. The sight of a dressed up briefly woman or the flirtation with an officially married person had psycho-aphrodisiac role for these worn down couple, thus avoiding the problems of real divorce and remarriage. Such behavior of showing the female intimate body parts thus strengthens traditional monogamous couples in the modern Western culture through the illusory polygamous satisfaction. Thus the official couple members lived the satisfaction of reinventing themselves. So this behavior has a welding role for worn down marriages.

The legislation has become more and more permissive in meeting these couples need to refresh, after decreasing the members appetite for each other. After all, it was previously created and still is used and controlled by those who have gone through these couple experiences. It as meant to protect the exhibitionist woman as much as possible from the possible abuses, such as sexual harassment or rape, although at this point got things out of control, as I showed in the previous article .

Starting from this mentality, the feminine hysteria has also passed to another level, getting close to the nowadays sexual exhibitionism. In the nineteenth and early twentieth century the hysteria had a Victorian allure, "spiritually" seducing. On the contrary, with the legal protection of the late twentieth century and the beginning of the twenty-first century, it became very physically seductive. For this reason, in the criteria of histrionic behavior, the sexual seduction has become increasingly visible in successive editions of the DSM. However, the hysterical behavior remained the same in some respects: for example the nowadays histrionic woman will also reject a man for building a couple, if he has the same social stage. And if the histrionic woman adheres to feminism, then she can also provoke scandal, accusing the man of sexual harassment, although he approached her peacefully. (Although approaching women through vulgar attitude or verbal and physical violence is a normal excuse for responding aggressive). As in the past, if the social status of the approaching man is not high enough, or if he does not come with a much more refined behavioral "label" than that of the class she belongs to, the histrionic woman does not consent to these insistences, but still behaves sexually and emotionally provocatively.

This exhibitionist mentality has been loudly asserted by the 1990s feminism. Basically, the feminism’s relation evolution with the sexuality repeats the evolution of hysteria itself. If the 1960s feminism was a neo-puritanism, as was the post-Victorian hysteria, on the contrary, in the 1990s there were voices within feminism that assumed very vocal and sometimes vulgar sexuality.

Such an attitude is called „“The Bitch Philosophy...”” manifested by Elizabeth Wurtzel:

“I intend to scream, shout, race the engine, call when I feel like it, throw tantrums in Bloomingdale's if I feel like it and confess intimate details about my life to complete strangers. I intend to do what I want to do and be whom I want to be and answer only to myself: that is, quite simply, the bitch philosophy...”

Although they assume their "whoredom" with nonchalance and their availability for paid sexual services, yet these women rarely practice prostitution. As I have shown above, a substantial offer is required from a claimant to accept selling their emotions and body. But they are not at all street prostitutes like those known. These women have higher education, graduated at prestigious universities. They can easily get decent jobs in society, and that is why they do not need to practice prostitution to survive. Sometimes they use these attitudes to defend the rights of prostitutes and are even militant for human rights and sexual minorities. However, many times this behavior is driven by the need for this protected by legislation exhibitionism under the reasons stated above. If the male exhibitionist gets away when a woman accepts his "advances", on the contrary, the female exhibitionist calls for legislation if any suitor tries to approach her. Hence their vehement activism to prosecute the man greeting and complimenting to an unknown woman as sexual harassment, which I will describe in details on in the next article in this series.

Of course, the legislation does not actually work in all social groups. Thus, the hysterical exhibitionism manifests only in the high layers of society, as in art. Artists such as Judy Chicago in the 1970s exhibited their bodies in enclosed, protected spaces performances. The photographs and filmed footages were lately exposed in public spaces. Sometimes a small audience was invited to the artistic action. In 2010 the exhibitionism went further, practiced in front of a wider but still highly educated audience. Artists like Ruth Vigueras Bravo, Deborah de Robertis, Milo Moiré and others after them, exhibited their genital organs and masturbated in public spaces performances.

Although an educated audience was passing through, belonging to a social level that usually does not practice rape, yet anyone could have access to such spaces. Fortunately, these events were attended by an educated audience only, so the abuse was eclipsed by the unprecedented situation. In the art world, the naked body, whether male or female, is not a scandal. The artists have worked with the nude since the ancient times. Most contemporary artists have classical studies, which made them very early acquainted with the naked human body. But if these artistic actions were implemented in a non-artistic, street environment, they would become abuses against the common man. For the average man, raised in a socially disadvantaged environment, with family communication problems, such erotic seduction followed by the categorical refusal to his approaching attempt is an abuse made by woman too. We will see later in this text that too explicit an approach of the man in the public space for a woman is an abuse , as the general feminism argues. But the too-explicit bodily exposure for uneducated men is also an abuse. The naked exposure of the female body has experimentally certified consequences in human male sexuality, as the specific olfactory signals of females have in animal male sexuality. Such exhibitionist behavior done by the above mentioned "philosophy" followers causes sexual arousal to men and subsequent frustration if it does not naturally discharge into specific sexual behavior. I have shown above that such over-excitement tides up the worn down couples. Those who belong in a couple relationship with another woman can positively neutralize this drive revival with her. But those who do not have such a relationship get frustrated.

The general sexual and emotional life of the social base members is very disturbed. These people are victims of society. Paradoxically, they have the strongest libido, as I described here. There is causal conditioning between the trauma and the libido intensity. In these articles I have referred several times to the experiments of the painful shocks applied to rats (Miller, Neal E.), and monkeys (Robert A. Hinde). After these shocks the subjects developed the consumption needs increasing, such as the food or the sexual needs. As a result of specific bigger or smaller pressures , at the base of the population at the base of the social pyramid, many men go through the same trauma as the animal subjects in the above experiments. The result is a directly proportional libido intensity increasing for men. On the contrary, this most often lead to libidinal flattening for women. Thus we have the anachronistic situations in couples, with the hypersexual man in relation to the partner. For this reason, at the social pyramid base, the big couple problems cases abound much more than the worn down ones from the middle or even its top. Many lower parts of society married couples live in glacial or even constant hostility atmosphere, with domestic violence and other horrors. So many women at the social pyramid bottom decide to live alone, without a partner.

Here, exhibiting the female shapes in front of these people is a challenge. For both the couple incompatibilities man but also for the one that lacks a partner, such female forms exposure causes frustration. The “My Body is Mine” ideology which can be the same with "is my body and I do what I want with it" has a perfect justification in the debate on abortion and the contraception use **.

In some countries such as Romania in the dictatorial period, this personal decision was abused by prohibiting the women access to medical services for pregnancy interruption or contraceptive means.

But they come with a potential abuse that, as we see, women can also do to men. The exclusively female initiation of the intimate relationship supported by the feminism could end the discomfort that certain very beautiful women feel after being constantly disturbed by the men approaches. But here, such a measure could increase the exhibitionists abuse towards these marginal groups. That will send the abuse to the other extreme. It will create an artificial psychodynamic inhibition by artificially provoking desires that do not reflect the environmental conditions. The histrionic exhibitionists felt that they could go even further with this seductive abuse of the marginal men, under the good intention disguise. The feminist discourse comes as a glove over these two particularities of histrionic personality. And indeed some socially disadvantaged men respond themselves abusively, through the behaviors I described in this article  . Of course, these abuses of response cannot be tolerated or excused. But, because the women initially seduced them, however, they themselves are originally abusive.

The female exhibitionism has a ventilation role of the worn down couples. But, as with exhibitionist artists, they must be somehow channeled to these couples, and isolated from disadvantaged or conservative communities. In the following video, at the 34 seconds, we see such a woman dressed in very tight pants walking through poor urban areas:



I support most of what is said in this video. The feminist theory that the society is made under the emotional abusers and rapists interests is fully right, as I said here  . The woman from this video is not an exhibitionist, at least not one like the ones described above. This experiment was done not for exhibitionistic reasons, but for purely sociological ones, to show the men status in these social environments, although it was not necessary. The delinquency in these areas is known. But what has happened since the second 34 is an abuse initiated by that woman this time. This can lead to dubious behavior from men. Everyone knows that the disadvantaged areas are dangerous. Whatever the reason, such a walk in tight pants, letting the rounded shapes visible, is a challenge for this kind of environment.

The feminist condemnation of the misogynistic rhetoric of blaming the victim for sexual harassment and rape is fully justified. But in these cases of exhibitionism, whether moderate or not, I think the blame must be shared. If you as a woman go into an underprivileged neighborhood dressed provocative to show the men out there are not good enough for you, then you have also caused the crime of falling victim. I repeat: I do not exclusively accuse the woman, as victim blamers do, but I also do not exclusively accuse the man, as some feminists do; if an abuse happens like those too explicit messages, then the both sides are to blame.

The exhibitionism encouragement has led to the revival of the upper classes worn down couples. But its extension to the lower classes is a disaster. Basically, it creates an abuse that is quite similar to the sexual harassment I analyzed in the article linked above. I have pointed out there that inter-institutional sexual harassment is a particular case of the powerful social system unnaturally obtaining consent for something the victim would not naturally consent to. The non-institutional sexual harasser obtains the consent for sexual relations by blackmail, as the state itself (social privileged ones) obtains consent for the numerous abuses it commits. But in this case we have to deal with the same kind of abuse only it is inversed. This does not mean that a man who harasses or rapes an exhibitionist woman is innocent. But he is not the only one guilty for such crimes. Therefore, just like the exhibitionist artist who acted at the museum educated space only, also the upper classes worn down couples exhibitionists must act in the upper classes areas.

I have seen contradictory attitudes from the sex-eccentric feminists who openly claim that they are floozy. However, they not apply this rule to protect oneself and others, typical histrionic. Although they claim to be "bitch", they want to punish / forbid the "perverse" man attitude that approach them on the street. Here we see a double standard of being brave out of their own perversity but condemning it on the others.

In addition to the worn down couples ventilation, the female exhibitionism is tolerated precisely for this abuse on the marginal groups. The half naked women in real life, movies or commercials are psychically pressuring them to step up their game, take a better paid job to buy an item to impress the disguised prostitute woman or the arrogant exhibitionist one who feels the satisfaction of an autistic orgasm in shocking the emotional weak ones. This is the society itself profile. For now, the society has no interest in recognizing this abuse, because that would mean recognizing these people abusive nature. Nothing is said about the ads misleading and manipulative messages. They are not recognized as abusive either. Basically the world economy works through this propaganda of artificially stimulated advertising consumption. Agreeing that the female exhibitionism towards the socially disadvantaged is an abuse would be equivalent to the recognition the advertising as an abuse and also that of the slavery modified in apparently free trade. That would reduce the corporations’ profit. Such exhibitionists’ liberty to extract libidinal satisfaction from the certain social outcasts "salivation" undermines their freedom. The advertising that lures them towards overconsumption does the same.

So, the exhibitionist women are a double-edged sword. Their vehemence makes us see beyond this thin layer of the abuses they claim. They direct our attention to these dubious underlings of our society that we believed to be honest. And, above all, it makes us think of ourselves, who directly or indirectly support it. The greater their efficiency in causing imbalances and "getting someone out of its comfort zone" those who have to be brought into the servants position, the more they themselves can see beyond this abuses iceberg top, namely the sexual and emotional abuses. I foresee that in the future the feminists in general will rally into the human rights activists, so that the system very creation will turn against itself.

The exclusively female initiation of intimate relationships was not imposed by the exhibitionists. They have come to identify with this moral revolution due to the tempestuousness in implementing this norm in the legislation. But the traditional society itself had certain rules for limiting the men liberties who initiate courtship to a woman. Unfortunately, these rules have faded away once with the contemporary lifestyle. So the solution of the exclusively feminine initiation of intimate relationships, proposed by the feminism, has come to cover this void. And here a serious public debate is needed, to replace those outdated rules with new ones before things degenerate. At the pressure from the exhibitionists, disguised prostitutes, lesbians and eccentric sexual behavior women, the moderate feminists tend to accept the legislative incrimination of this traditional man behavior of initiating closeness to a woman. In the above video at the 01.45 minute, we notice that such a feminist woman wants the verbal comment, compliment or insistent look to be considered as "sexual harassment". About the moral and legal justification of such an intention I will analyze in the next chapter

* There must be made the distinction between the proper exhibitionist and the rapist who initially tries to seduce by his “genital qualities”. So exposing the intimate parts in front of a woman is not a certainty that that man will run away if the woman pays attention. Usually the exhibitionist manifests in the area predominantly frequented by women, while the rapist prefers deserted areas to not get caught, but this criterion is not 100% sure.

** Many ideological pressures have been put on women to give birth to more children. The more children a family has, the more some of them will have to work hard for a home, which will make them more profitable for the new masters  . Beyond the not very possible moral ideals into the contemporary cynical world, it is normal to consider that the unborn fetus is part of the woman's body, and that she can do whatever she wants with it if she has the full mental capacity of that.

In unele tari precum Romania din perioada dictatoriala aceasta decizie personala a fost abuzata prin interzicerea accesului femeilor la servicii medicale de intrerupere de sarcina sau la mijloace contraceptionale.

Gabriel Baldovin

3.2. The disguised prostitution

3.2. The disguised prostitution

sociologie Baldovin   23:23

3. The natural consent abuses within the intimate relationships

3.2. The disguised prostitution

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2. The next level of transmitting nonviolent couple abuse in the body of the social pyramid is not telling to the client that she/he is actually paying for prostitution. If the imposed polygamy is practiced by the top of the social pyramid, or by those with above the average wealth, disguised prostitution is practiced by its mid level. Sometimes it is even the response to the privileged ones social predisposition to buy women’s natural consent. Because of this, it is practiced by both sexes, as I said in the previous article, but mostly by women. The imposed polygamist is willing to pay a large sum of money to turn a decent woman into a prostitute. On the contrary, the person who practices disguised prostitution does not afford this. In fact, it is not willing to pay any money for having prostitution sex with the other person. On the contrary, she/he is the one who takes a lot of money from the victim, who does not suspect that is emotionally extorted as a client. Here is a first differentiation from the imposed polygamy: the abused person does not know in the case of disguised prostitution that she/he is a client. In the first case, she knows this, but she cannot resist the material goods temptation and artificially gives her consent to the abuser. Another differentiation is that in the imposed polygamy case, there might be a 3-rd person who is the most abused, having an official relationship with the abuser, as girlfriend or wife. On the contrary, in the disguised prostitution case, there is not a third person and the most abused is the client.

The woman who practices undeclared prostitution to the client can pursue such a polygamous man to exchange natural consent for the material goods she can take from him. But in many other cases, she is not looking for a polygamist, but an inexperienced man for seducing him to fall in love with her and then trick him for material goods. If the hidden prostitute woman can sometimes pursue a forced polygamy, on the contrary, the hidden prostitute man does not follow a polygamous woman. In general, the women do not pay for sexual services, but simply accept courtship from men who are interested in them. He follows a lonely woman, eager for a loving relationship. In both cases, the abuser offers sexual services that the victim overestimates as an emotional attachment. In other words, the abuser sells its fake emotional attachment to the victim that generally is above him on the social pyramid scale. So here is another differentiation from imposed polygamy, where the abuser is generally on a higher level in this hierarchy!

There is a difference between the normal couple's attachment to a wealthy partner and the disguised prostitution. The fact that a materially wealthy person can obtain more easily consent for the couple's relationship is natural. On the contrary, in the case of disguised prostitution, the main criterion for entering or leaving a couple relationships is only the short-term material gain. The main interest for building the relationship is the possibility of later material gain, as a result of financial help for a fictional problem (mainly used by men), divorce or inheritance (mainly used by women), as I will detail below. The practicing disguised prostitution person simulates the couple's relationship or willingness to enter into it and to help to consolidate it. But both the man and the woman who practices it take off such a relationship without any regret when given the chance for bigger material gain into another. This does not usually happen in the normal attachment case to a wealthy person. Only the pressures coming from a polygamous person from the top of the social pyramid can make the normal attachment one to totally or provisionally leave the couple relationship in which they belong. Persoana care practica prostitutia mascata gaseste trei motive pentru a abandona relatia:

The person who practices disguised prostitution finds three reasons to abandon the relationship:

• a. amplifies some minor misunderstandings with the partner, although easily got over them in the past;
• b. invokes the getting through a depressive or other medical episode and the need for a temporary relationship suspension, without accepting the help of the partner;
• c. invokes the need for spiritual evolution that implies a "genuine", de-sexualized life, although it continues in the new relationship.

In the first case, the disguised prostitution person does not accept any dialogue to solve these problems further and save the couple. In the other two cases the depressive disorder, the illness or the spirituality suddenly disappear with the new relationship. Such practices are abuses of the partner's trust and expectations; the interest of those who do such a thing is not the couple formation and consolidation, but the accelerated and unjustified social ascension, through the partner. It is only seen as a stepping stone, thus stimulating its anxiety of separation after.

The disguised prostitution must also be differentiated from the irreconcilable incompatibilities inside the couple. A very accelerated evolution on the socio-professional scale, a political radicalization, or a psychopathological (depressive or other) and / or medical breakdown of one of the couple members is a justifiable reason for incompatibility and separation. But this episode repeating is likely to mask prostitution. Stepping through several intimate relationships and abandoning them, with the social status constant increasing and without the abuser accelerated professional evolution, or without radical changes in the mentality and the partner health or mental state, becomes susceptible to that. Such an "evolution" questions the honesty of these alleged irreconcilable incompatibilities in the couple. This looks more or less like this hidden form of prostitution.

Also, the disguised prostitution must be differentiated from the prostitution itself. Even if in some countries it is illegal, due to certain prejudices or their totalitarian tendencies, however, its open practicing, the price communication and the rendered services makes it a free trade. But the person that pays for emotional services in the case of disguised prostitution does not know that the partner's attachment is conditioned by these payments. This is illegal in economic exchanges. The consumer law clearly states that any service provider must provide detailed information to customers about its services. Usually the emotionally deceived person would not accept to pay for this. That person is deceived to act according to a family member, as the abuser simulates the behavior of being a part of a normal family with the victim. Any member of a normal family materially helps another member who is going through a difficult time, or who wants to bring them joy. The abuser simulates the family relationship and causes the victim to believe that it is a natural thing. By the time the victim learns about the abuser's strategy, it would already have spent a considerable amount of money, thus being scammed.

Next I will detail the action methods of both men and women who practice disguised prostitution.

The disguised prostitute man initiates amorous relationships with marginal women, who are not complimented and who lack very much the intimacy. As true hunters, they initiate the relationship, simulate intense love, establish emotional connections with the victim, and then blackmail her with the separation threatening. This blackmail is directly or indirectly done, under different pretexts such as serious problems in the family, problems in the professional activity or dedication of a noble purpose such as saving children, endangered species, etc. The woman tries to help and ends up offering him the financial help he had been following since the beginning. He can thus scum more women at the same time.

With the internet social networks development, a real industry of financial scamming of unsafe or inexperienced women in communication has thrived. Users in Africa or East Asia download various photos from social media profiles belonging to well-positioned real men from rich Western countries. Then they make fake profiles from those photos. With those fake profiles, they go then online for that kind of lower social status women or those who live into lower economic countries. Soon they begin to "attach" to the victim and vice versa. After an enthusiastic romance promising, at one point the victim will get the eternal message like "I am on X island and my luggage was stolen, send me some money so I can get home!". And from here, the victim s asked for a whole bunch of services until she starts doubting the online partner's honesty.

A more organized form of disguised male prostitution is pimping. The pimp is spending time with the future prostitute, literally "investing" in it. He buys her clothes, food, jewelry and more, thus earning her confidence and love. But this moment is only the stage of the investment. He waits until the woman completely breaks off ties with her family and friends and encourages her to make such radical decisions in order to become totally dependent on him. After the woman breaks off with her family, he begins to exploit her discreetly, forcing her to have sex with other men. This is the time of maturity, when the woman practically makes a profit from the initial investment. Being in the situation of not having an alternative, the woman stays in this relationship for years until it is no longer profitable. The pimp then moves on to the next victim.

The disguised prostitute woman simulates belonging to a higher social class to establish connections with different people of the same social level. The hidden prostitutes are very mobile in different social environments for getting the "target", although they do not come from families at this level. These women presence in those high status public places is due solely to the interest of "hanging" a rich man in order to make him in love with her and from which to have the greatest material benefits. In the long run, they are pursuing a marriage that raises them up on the social hierarchy. But, in the absence of finding a rich and naive suitor, they are satisfied with "lower" remuneration, which is still very expensive for a middle-class man. So, for a longer or shorter period, they can practice luxury prostitution for "refined and discreet gentlemen." That's why they hate being approached by a middle-class man.

Those with lower ambitions are even employed as "entertainers" in different venues, clubs, gyms or other such places, simply as persons who attracts the potential clients, namely the men who want adventure. Wanting to impress such an "employee" they buy as many products from there. These women receive a monthly fee precisely depending on how seductive they are with the naive ones who think they can conquer them.

Regardless of whether they are luxury hookers or cheer girls, these women are just as deceptive as affective scams because they do not talk about their actual "job". They deceitfully behave like high-ranking women who want to find their half but can't find it. From a distance they seem like wandering goddesses on earth, among mortals who are bellow their match. As looking like saints, some men fall in love with them and are ready to throw their wealth at their feet. For some of them, such a deception to which they are caught is the last one.

A very dangerous phenomenon of disguised prostitution, still at the beginning, but constantly growing in Western society, especially in the US, is the "morning after regret". Before going into details about its manifestation, I would first like to describe a type of veiled rape (practiced by some men) to which this abuse of fake victims has adapted. It consists in putting sleeping pills in the women's drinks at parties, followed by abducting them when are intoxicated or unconscious to have sex with, as they cannot clearly express their consent. In the below video we see such an social experiment.



The feminists are right when they complain about this kind of consent abuse. But, furthermore, there are rapists who deliberately the use psychoactive substances to bring women into this state of vulnerability. Playing the role of the close to the victim person as she is unable to convince passers-by of the contrary, the rapists only draw attention to them as brothers, lovers or unlucky spouses. The woman is seen as depraved. Basically it is the same crime that is committed against children, lured by different compensations to accept sexual relations. At their age they still cannot give consent for sex due to their immaturity. In the same conditions the woman cannot give her consent. In countries with social systems closer to the classical dictatorship, this is not punished by the legal system. It is considered to be the woman’s duty to protect herself and not to relate with strangers. In the democratic tradition societies that is considered discrimination, but this argument is not very strong. The main criterion for taking this behavior as a crime is the lack of intoxication episodes with psychoactive substances. The only fact that a woman loses her control for the first time after ingesting such substances is unnatural, and hides this rape of intoxication.

I think the circumstances in which the woman has reached the euphoria or sleepiness mental state should be clearly specified. If she is at a party or in a certain place and orders a non-alcoholic or low-alcoholic drink, which brings her close to an alcoholic coma then it is clear clue that someone has discreetly slipped dangerous substances into her glass. Here are the signs of a rape. Not the same thing happens in other cases of women who profess charging men with gang rape in order to obtain material benefits from them. But if the woman willingly goes to a man's house and consumes psychoactive substances side by side, this means assuming the consequences that follow from weakening the man's self-control, then I think this is not rape.

The use of psychoactive substances in the privacy of a man's house often leads to weakening inhibitions and to such an event. The woman must be cautious about these steps she does with a man and stop in time if she wants things not to move on between her and that man. I think it is her duty to keep her control and not to overdo it with alcohol, just as exhibitionist women should practice their vice elsewhere than in the dangerous areas where there is a risk of rape. It is a universal rule of the relationship between the sexes. The naked female body causes the man an irresistible sex-drive arousal, and the loss of control occurs when the sexual instinct invades the behavior. Also, there is no rape when such a thing happens in a public place, inside a group of friends.

There are situations in which this happens between old friends; the woman wants a long time love affair over that of friendship, but the man only wants a night adventure. In retaliation for her wounded pride, the woman accuses him the next day of rape by rape of intoxication, by the so-called phenomenon of morning after regret. There are men who simulate the friendship with desirable women for a love affair just to get to this point. There are men who are more interested in polygamy wrapped in what is called "friendship with benefits", without the traditional responsibilities of the couple. Their fault in this situation is that they do not directly say in the woman lucidity moments that they want to have a short affair with her. But, not even the woman who enters this game clearly tells the man that she wants a classic relationship before the euphoria state caused by the ingestion of psychoactive substances. It is certain that, after the accomplished fact, she does not accept an open relationship and accuses him of rape after such a night of party.

In this case, the man should tell the woman from the very beginning that he is polygamous, or that he is seeing someone else that does not want to leave and only wants a temporary adventure from her. But his abuse is not rape. A group of friends voluntarily consumed psychoactive substances or the woman voluntarily went to that man's house and consumed such substances by mutual consent. I am not talking here about the eccentric sexual behaviors that the woman did not consent to, which is the subject of another discussion   . But morning after regret is not about this situation.

But, in addition to the abusive man who is trying to force the woman's natural consent for sex, there are also women who are trying to force the man's natural consent to enter into a traditional couple relationship through this wild parties back door. This is not the best way to start something in general. The woman should avoid these parties until the couple welds and each knows what they want from the other. Otherwise, when she notices that the partner does not want to enter into a long time love affair, she changes her strategy and accuses him of rape. It is very difficult here to see from whom the abuse comes, or which one is bigger. In Romania and probably in many of the Eastern Europe countries and many more, there is practiced forced marriage by a judge as a result of a classic rape, occurred under sobriety. Even if it did not manifest itself as rape, as a freely agreed relationship, the justice forced the man in these countries to marry the departed woman, as the virginity was considered a major virtue and its loss a handicap.

As I have seen, many US judges convict a man of rape on the morning after regret basis, thus being held responsible for both partners losing control over ingestion of psychoactive substance. It is unnatural that the woman who did the same thing is acquitted of all responsibilities and the man is punished as guilty. It is also true that the women need to be overprotected, but not so positively discriminated that it reaches the extremes, with the man declared guilty and the woman innocent. It does not seem normal to me for a man only to be punished. In this case it seems to me an inverted jihad: if in some Arab countries the woman is punished after being raped, now in the West we get to punish the man because the woman does not take care enough of her body.

Of course, things didn't stop there. This judges predisposition to punish the intoxication rape practiced by some men, in the Western world this "morning after regret" phenomenon becomes increasingly visible  , which actually hides a disguised prostitution. Two types of women came out to use the feminist rhetoric for the typical financial interests of the disguised prostitutes or the typical radical feminist revenge on men. I will describe it in more detail here . In this last case they plays this role from the position of radical feminists who wants to punish Casanova men, which I will detail describe in the following article  . They are not primarily interested in material rewards, but does not refuses them either. I will detail this idea later  . They simulate good mood, possibly even consume a few glasses of alcohol, then hang wealthy men and after that get involved into intimate relationships with them. The disguised prostitutes are interested in a profit relationship. If the men prove that they do not have enough money to satisfy their needs after the sex is consummated, then these women start trials based on the fact that they would have taken advantage of their hangover status to have sex. As a result of this planned "regret", these women accuses the man of rape and receives compensation.

The criteria for discovering such women must be firm. In all the cases of this kind I have encountered on the internet, the man wants a relationship with the one who accuses him of rape, but she is the one who refuses. This detail is somewhat unnatural, as she agreed from the start to consume psychoactive substances with him, which announced the imminence of sexual relations. This kind of changing mind must also be differentiated from the woman’s later refusal after the man tried to practice eccentric sexual behavior on her. Here is a huge difference from the abusive man, in search of a “friends with benefits” relationship with his female colleagues or friends, but not a classic couple relationship. Some men still do not understand these women sneaky strategy and even want to remain in a loving relationship with them, even though are being sued by them. Of course, these women sneaky are not interested in this, but in the maximum profit or revenge. That is why they are claiming compensations in court.

Things must be judged very carefully here! In the case of disguised prostitutes, there must be clarified whether the woman who makes rape charges really deserves her social status, respectively after being a member of a wealthy family or after a well paid job. It is not possible for an unemployed woman who has several years of experience in different jobs, and possibly with bad references from colleagues, to live higher standard of living, compared to the average employees’ community. There's a hint that she practices disguised prostitution. And a rape charges from such a woman should rather bring her own to the judicial investigations on how she has accumulated that wealth.

In addition to the abuse of the profession non-communication inside the institutions there is a risk of a new type of corruption consolidating through the disguised prostitution. It is the reverse of the intra-institutional sexual harassment that I have analyzed here  . This is just as dangerous as that because it indirectly involves it; the potential abusive man can get the idea to apply it in the work relationships. If in this link described case the man is harassing the woman through different obstacles in the workplace to prevent her from advancing, in the case of disguised prostitution, she initially tries to seduce him so to have sex with and then blackmail him to facilitate access to an undeserved position or some kind of reward, under the charge of rape under the "morning after regret" turned into next month after regret.

Well that's how it happened with some of the #metoo accusers who brought rape charges as a result of the past year regret or even the last century regret ... They tried to use their seductive talents to receive one role or another, and were eventually refused. After seeing that they did not get the proper payment, they changed the rhetoric into the rape of the last century regret. Of course, the Hollywood producers and filmmakers are beasts in giving such women false clues, making them believe that they "might get it", as I mentioned in that link. But if you as an actress get into this dangerous game of real-life poker, described in the above histrionic-like manipulations, you risk losing. And that’s what happened to them.

In the next article I will also analyze the third category of nonviolent abusers of couples, respectively the histrionic-like seductive behavior people

Gabriel Baldovin

Politica de jucarie si riscul dictaturii

Politica de jucarie si riscul dictaturii

sociologie Baldovin   02:03

V-ati intrebat vreodata de ce e nevoie sa consumam sute de tone de hartie pentru a monitoriza intentiile politice ale cetatenilor la alegeri? Sistemul nostru electoral a ramas, iata, la nivelul secolului XIX. Intarzierea aparatului electoral a creat niste anomalii incredibile in aceasta campanie pentru prezidentiale din Romania. Una dintre ele este legata de numarul de minim 200 000 de semnaturi care permite accederea pe functia de candidat. Asa ceva este mai intai o ingradire a articolului 37 din Constitutia Romaniei privind „Dreptul de a fi ales”. Dupa cum s-a vazut, strangerea a 200 000 de semnaturi e imposibila fara un aparat de partid consistent. Practic independentii care propun programe noi sunt esclusi de la a fi alesi prin acest prag al numarului de 200 000 de semnaturi. In felul acesta perspectivei schimbarii reale a politicilor este in vorba goala, in conditiile in care aceeasi oameni se succed la guvernare. In plus, semnaturile copiate la xerox au generat suspiciuni ca ele au fost folosite inainte pentru altcineva si ca acum sunt pur si simplu vandute. Un prezidentiabil care nu a strans 200 000 a declarat ca la un moment dat i s-a propus un targ, adica sa i se vanda astfel de semnaturi contra sumei de 60 000 de Euro.

Pe langa asta, apar alte probleme in plus odata cu intrarea in vigoare a legii privind protectia datelor. Aceste semnaturi sunt stranse de niste voluntari nepregatiti in domeniul protectiei datelor personale, dupa cum a observat jurnalistul Radu Moraru. Acuzatiile de frauda ar disparea total daca aceste semnaturi preliminare ar fi stranse cu un ID electronic intr-o baza de date publica.

Tehnologia poate depasi cu usurinta acest handicap. Se poate crea un site gen portal pe internet, un fel de retea sociala publica unde fiecare sa-si creeze un profil cu date reale si care sa inregistreze optiunile politice ale tuturor cetatenilor. O astfel de retea ar putea tine foarte bine si de recensamant. Fraudarea ar fi imposibila pentru ca omul si-ar verifica in mod constant concordanta intre optiunea sa si baza de date unde decizia lui este pastrata. Astazi exista Facebook, o companie privata care face asta. O astfel de retea de socializare are multe hibe  in ea. Dar chiar si ea ar putea face o contabilizare cat de cat obiectiva a optiunilor de vot. Insa publicarea optiunilor personale pe aceste retele e ceva ce sistemul neo-dictatorial actual nu doreste. Sub pretextul interzicerii campaniei electorale in ziua alegerilor, publicarea optiunilor personale se sanctioneaza cu amenda babana  . Speriati de posibilitatea amenzii, multi nu isi publica optiunile spre a fi verificate. Exact asta nu doreste noua dictatura: respectiv sa nu fie confruntate sondajele si rezultatele contrafacute de ei cu ceea ce a votat de fapt poporul. Alegerile sunt astfel la fel de fraudate precum cele ale dictaturii clasice.

Din dreptul de pastrare a secretului votului, observam ca secretul e deja o obligatie. Votul trebuie sa ramana „secret” tocmai pentru a nu fi monitorizat de observatori independenti. Desigur, nu in sens de protectie a celui ce voteaza; numai suspiciunea ca cineva ar trebui protejat de opiniile sale politice miroase a dictatura. Nu. Secretul se refera exact la impiedicarea renumararii voturilor. Daca aceste voturi exprimate in paralel ar fi contabilizate si vizibile de toti, atunci astfel de manevre de masluire a rezultatelor nu s-ar mai putea face. Si, iata, amenzile pentru cei care isi publica votul sunt menite sa-i descurajeze pe multi sa incerce asa ceva.

Din pacate, in naivitatea lor, multi nu-si pun deloc intrebari despre temeiul logic si mai ales manipulator al acestei masuri. Cum sa fie campanie electorala o simpla exprimare a optiunilor politice? In primul rand, omul simplu nu stie sa faca o astfel de campanie. Apoi, conform acestei logici, afisele puse peste tot in spatiul public ar trebui si ele distruse in ziua alegerilor, pentru ca ele chiar fac campanie electorala. O alta ciudatenie e faptul ca televiziunile se intrec sa arate in ziua alegerilor candidatii ca merg la vot, dar daca un simplu cetatean isi arata optiunea deschisa in aceeasi zi, asta se cheama campanie electorala. Desigur interesele sunt diverse: in primul caz se incurajeaza cat mai multi sa mearga spre a se indeplini cumva o majoritate care voteaza si care sa dea o oarecare legitimitate „democratiei”. Insa in celalalt caz exista riscul ca optiunile majoritatii sa nu concorde cu rezultatele. Conform cu principiul stalinist ”Nu conteaza cine voteaza, conteaza cine numara voturile”, fraudarea alegerilor este un semn tipic al dictaturii.

Ei bine, toata aceasta cheltuiala inutila este foarte eficienta si pentru beneficiarii acestui nou tip de dictatura. In plus de asta, democratia are niste probleme grave, desi e recunoscuta drept cel mai uman sistem social. Ideile politice ale poporului care uneori pot fi nocive. Am fost ani de zile sustinatorul democratiei directe. Insa un popor plin de frustrari precum cel american sau roman ar avea tendinta sa aleaga un Hitler. Asa s-a intamplat cu nemtii insisi in anii 30 (la momentul preluarii puterii Hitler era sustinut de majoritate, chiar daca cu un an inainte iesise pe locul 2 la alegeri). Daca nici poporul german, marele popor german, n-a putut face ceva bun din democratie, atunci ce am face noi ca romani? Am pleca la razboi cu ungurii sa le-aratam noi de suparare ca ne-au luat rusii Basarabia...

Poporul Francez, alt mare popor, poporul care a inventat practic democratia prin celebra sa Revolutie (SUA nu era o tara atunci, ci o colonie rebela), a creat un haos teribil dupa ce l-a decapitat pe regele Luis al XVI-lea. Dupa ce l-au decapitat pe rege au inceput sa decapiteze aristocratia franceza. Dupa care au trecut la suspiciuni unii fata de altii si au inceput sa se casapeasca pe ei insisi. Atunci s-a inventat ghilotina, dupa ce nu erau destui calai pentru decapitari. Robespierre, capul revolutiei a ajuns si el decapitat de ghilotina. „Marat asasinat”, a ajuns personaj in celebra pictura a lui Jacques-Louis David.

Daca nu venea Napoleon Bonaparte poporul putea crea un adevarat genocid asupra lui insusi si sa se auto-distruga. Dar ororile nu s-au oprit nici pe departe. Pretul acestei experiente traumatice a fost dictatura instituita de el ulterior. Apoi, in urma razboaielor lui de prin Europa au murit intre 3 - 6,5 milioane de oameni  . Iar admiratia providentiala a poporului fata de un astfel de lider a creat predispozitia pentru dictaturi si mai odioase in secolul XX, respectiv cea hitlerista si cea stalinista care au inzecit impreuna numarul mortilor in razboaiele ce au urmat.

Iata ce orori poate crea democratia directa! Atenienii secolului 5 ien, cei care au practicat pentru prima data democratia au putut vedea asta pe propria lor piele. Aristotel a descris cu o luciditate traita pe viu modul in care democratia poate degenera in tiranie atunci cand majoritatea decid sa-si cedeze puterea politica unui astfel de om carismatic. Asta pentru ca grecii au avut mereu conflicte cu persii, fapt ce le-a produs traume. Experiente traumatice intercomunitare transgenerationale le creeaza acestor popoare predispozitie intrinseca pentru „bataie” si conflict il face incapabil sa ia decizii echilibrate pentru societate. Numai faptul ca poporul e dispus sa investeasca putere politica intr-un rege sau un presedinte care sa decida pentru ei, arata predispozitia antidemocratica a acestui popor.

Iata in video-ul de mai jos ce optiune politica au americanii de rand:


Stati un pic si nu radeti ca nici ai nostri nu-s mai breji!


Exista o diferenta notabila, care ma face mandru ca sunt roman (pe tema asta) si nu american: prostia romaneasca e candida, e pacifista, in timp ce aia americana, dupa cum vedem, e agresiva, maligna.

Nu poti sa faci democratie cu astfel de oameni, nici de-o parte nici de alta. Cand Hitler spunea ca poporul nu isi doreste o democratie, nu gresea. Singura precizare ce trebuie facuta e aceea ca exista popoare echilibrate care pot sustine o democratie. La nivelul inconstientului individual, reunit intr-unul colectiv odata cu asocierea, poporul cu experiente traumatice isi doreste un despot cu mana de fier care sa ii razbune traumele. Mai mult decat atat, acest despot trebuie sa ii indeplineasca poporului si fantasma „identificarii cu agresorul”, adica sa il ridice peste alte popoare. Asa se intampla cu orice fel de om abuzat care incearca sa isi faca dreptate singur. Hitler, Napoleon si Stalin sunt figurile tipice indragite de popor, care in final duc la ruinarea lui. Exista, da, o doza de masochism in ideile politice ale cetateanului care isi are cauza in subordonarea sclavagista  cu care a fost educat timp de milenii . E un mare paradox acela ca, incercand sa iasa din conditia mizera de sclav in care a fost format timp de mai multe generatii, poporul mai mult se inrobeste. El se agata de o idee nobila, precum „poporul special” sau „conducatorul suprem”, „liderul”, „furherul”, dupa cum a observat cu o claritate de microscop Gustave Le Bon*. Apoi el se identifica cu acestea, dupa care incearca sa puna in practica cele mai barbare crime, precum jefuirea sau inrobirea altor popoare sau comunitati.

Pentru a evita o alta catastrofa precum astfel de drame reiesit atunci cand poporul a iesit la lupta, marile familii Rothschild si Rockefeller care guverneaza astazi lumea au implementat politica de jucarie. Ea permite interpunerea intre aceste idei politice nocive spre a nu crea astfel de catastrofe. Manipulatorii din rmbra au scos in fata anumite marionete care au suficienta carisma incat sa fie votate de niste oameni cu cultura politica medievala si dominati de o mentalitate infantila, de supunere fata de o pozitie paterna, dupa cum a observat Freud**, si el foarte precis. Adica niste analfabeti politic, ca s-o spunem direct. In decizia lor nu se intrevede eficienta rezolvarii problemelor, ci regresia la o idilica stare infantila sub protectia unui tata atotputernic, liderul absolut, un fel de zeu pe pamant. Poporul isi cedeaza nu doar puterea politica astfel, dar si responsabilitatea morala pentru crimele ce urmeaza ca urmare a punerii in practica a „dreptului celui mai puternic”, adica a jafului. Dupa ce razboiul da gres, si poporul e traumatizat fizic si moral, poporul se ridica impotriva fostului lider suprem pe care apoi il vede ca si calau. Acest model psihologic se repeta identic in politica de jucarie: poporul isi alege un lider, ii da la nivel simbolic putere politica, si apoi se plictiseste de el sau chiar se ridica impotriva lui.

Dar, spre deosebire de patricidul politic traditional descris de Freud, schimbarea periodica a liderului politic in democratie e menita sa consume doar la nivel simbolic aceasta predispozitie a supusilor spre razbunare. La fel se intampla si cu predispozitia ultranationalista  spre jefuirea altor comunitati. Democratia de jucarie este un totalitarism controlat pentru a lasa cat mai putine cicatrice psihopatologice unor minoritati. Pentru a evita revolutiile populare care conduc la genociduri precum cele din al doilea razboi mondial, SUA creeaza periodic razboaie clasice dar de mici dimensiuni prin care sunt atrasi si schiloditi potentialii revolutionari. La ce instrumente de control au CIA, razboiul cu tari precum Irak sau Afganistan s-ar fi putut face din satelit. Insa, la fel ca si in cazul democratiei de jucarie, si razboaiele lor de jucarie sunt niste mecanisme foarte profitabile de curatire a societatii de „elementele reactionare” (endogamie) la fel cum faceau dictaturile. Tinerii predispusi la violenta, eventual abuzati pe strazile rau famate cand erau copii si dornici de razbunare ca adulti sunt atrasi in aceasta retorica a demnitatii si respectabilitatii militare. Dupa ce vin de acolo schiloditi si cu PTSD nu mai pot fi decat boschetari si nu revolutionari cum ar fi putut fi.

Principalele instrumente ale implementarii politicii de jucarie sunt serVICIILE secrete, Pres(h)a si Ju$titia. Am descris in trecut aici  mecanismul psihologic de manipulare a atragerii adeptilor intr-un joc de manipulare si control. Niste agenti de-ai lor, dupa cum vedem, joaca rolul de responsabili unici pentru deciziile politice. Avand pretentia ca reprezinta o parte din cetateni, aceste marionete joaca teatru de adversari la nivel real pe piata informationala. Iar alegatorii, adevarati gura casca, asista la aceasta „lupta” ca la un meci de box. Am scris destul impotriva acestor institutii dupa ce am luat contact direct cu ele in viata de zi cu zi , dar si de la nivel teoretic precum aici  . Le detest ca nimeni altul. Dar iata ca ele au la baza o functie pozitiva, de a implementa o dictatura controlata in schimbul uneia clasice precum cele enumerate mai sus. Din pacate eu nu sustin teoria „raului cel mai mic” si din cauza asta detest si aceste institutii.

Da, nu exista cultura democratica pentru popoare care au trecut prin experiente sociale traumatice. Din pacate, poporale sudice si/sau cele expuse le traume istorice creeaza tragedii metasociale atunci cand functioneaza in democratie. Democratia directa e pentru poporalele nordice care au respect pentru totii membrii comunitatii lor dar si pentru restul popoarelor vorbitoare de alte limbi. Democratia directa e pentru poporalele echilibrate, care nu au fost supuse la asa ceva. Solutia in viitor este tocmai reducerea progresiva a traumatismelor sociale si a educatiei politice pentru ca poporul sa poata lua decizii intelepte si nu radicale.

Faptul ca democratia este imposibila pentru un popor frustrat e justificat. Insa faptul ca sistemul devine din ce in ce mai dictatorial si ca libertatile cetatenesti se restrang nu mai e justificat. Deja un astfel de sistem e o dictatura a profitului. Similitudinile sunt frapante. Germania hitlerista i-a stramutat pe evrei in odioasele lagare de concentrare. Rusia stalinista a deportat numeroase populatii in Siberia. „Marile civilizatii” au deportat populatiile africane pe post de sclavi in tot Occidentul. La fel cum aceste mari dictaturi au stramutat populatiile, fortandu-le sa-si paraseasca locurile natale, in acelasi fel face si „democratia” actuala. Diferenta am analizat-o detaliat in acest articol  si reflecta insasi diferenta intre sclavul clasic si executantul modern de ordine. Primul este amenintat cu bataia sau moartea, celalalt este manipulat, pacalit si ademenit cu imbogatirea.

Una este sa te interpui intre tendinta cetateanului din popoarele frustrate spre a nu cadea prada exceselor revansarde fata de alte comunitati, si cu totul altceva inseamna atragerea inocentilor traditionali in acest malaxor diabolic al consumismului  . Aici sistemul devine la fel de rau precum dictaturile clasice. Bolile diverse precum cancerul diabetul, infarctul, diabetul sau atacurile cerebrale au inlocuit moartea naturala. Medicina psihosomatica a fost suprimata spre a nu comunica omului simplu legaturile dintre aceste boli si stresul de fiecare zi. Insa, atata timp cat a putut, ea a spus suficient pentru a concluziona ca sistemul politicii de jucarie bazat pe extragerea profitului maxim este cel mai draconic sclavagism care a existat vreodata pe fata pamantului. Sclavia clasica ucidea 2-3 % dintre rebeli spre a-i potoli pe ceilalti. Razboaiele si ororile marilor dictaturi ale secolului al XX-lea au condus la moartea a doar 28,5 % din populatie (70 000 000 din 2,000,000,000 in 1950  ) . In momentul asta singura satisfactie este ca moartea survine mai tarziu si dupa o perioada oarecare de convalescenta in care cauzele sunt pierdute undeva in neantul experientelor din tinerete.

Democratia de jucarie nu are un plan concret de emancipare a poporului si nici macar a sine insasi. La fel ca un mascul beta, frustrat ca nu se poate imperechea, fiind invins de un alfa, spionii din aceste institutii isi traiesc mojicia in mod mediocru. Singura lor satisfactie e aceea de a observa prostimea si a o manipula precum un antropolog cu triburile sau un biolog ce face experimente pe diferite tipuri de organisme. Acesti spioni isi traiesc si ei satisfactia mojica de a se confunda cu Dumnezeu, mai creand o diversiune pe aici pe acolo, mai omorand cate o adolescenta precum cel pe care sistemul il protejeaza in cazul Caracal  . Nu se pot justifica moral astfel de actiuni doar prin prisma faptului ca dictaturile clasice au creat orori si mai mari. Iar experienta mea personala cu acest nou tip de dictatura  ma va face sa o detest cate zile voi avea, indiferent de partile sale bune.

Cand tu ca sistem social te folosesti de acest mecanism de echilibrare politica prin interpunere pentru a restrange libertatile individuale, atunci esti chiar o piedica in calea evolutiei sociale si emanciparii populare. Dupa ce reduci nivelul de trai al cetatenilor si ei ies in strada sa protesteze tu ce faci? Te pui cu bastoanele si gazele lacrimogene pe el? Creezi artificial traume poporului pentru propriul profit, in loc sa le elimini. Pai atunci tu statule, esti mai rau. La fel cum poporul frustrat are intentia de a subjuga alte comunitati, si tu ascunzi in intentia de a-l echilibra nevoia de a-ti pune in practica VICIILE maladive. Asa ai facut cel pe care tu l-ai ascuns in cazul Caracal .Intarirea sistemului politienesc conduce la psihgopatologizarea excesiva a populatiei. Adica la dezvoltarea unor pulsiuni excentrice fara posibilitate reala de satisfactie, sau cu rezultate criminale precum sadismul ucigas .

Atunci cand aceasta democratie de jucarie a ajuns mai rea decat dictatura comunista, eu unul simt nevoia sa intervin. Saracia si mizeria comunitara este artificial creata pentru extinderea privilegiilor unei oligarhii. Nu le mai ajunge milioanele si miliardele, nu le mai ajung masinile, vilele si concediile prelungite. Dupa ce au ajuns la astea, clica oligarhilor a inceput sa aiba ideatie paranoica de forma religioasa. Au inceput sa se creada adevarati dumnezei care decid cine traieste si cine moare. Practica sadismul ucigas , iar sistemul (adica tot ei) ii protejeaza. In ritmul acesta riscam sa ajungem cu totii niste sadici ucigas care sa ne urmarim unii altii sotiile si fiicele pentru a le ucide spre a ne pune in practica viciile maladive consolidate transgenerational.

Privilegiatii si-au luat in mod prevazator masini blindate si bodyguarzi pentru a se feri de furia publica. Au implementat un sclavagism vopsit in democratie de jucarie, pentru a-si extinde privilegiile, pentru a-si pune in practica perversiunile maladive, precum cel care a rapit fetele de la Caracal. Cu ce te deosebesti tu ca institutie din democratia de jucarie fata de ultranationalistul predispus la razboi prin democratia directa? Produci aceleasi traume sociale, doar ca ai instrumente mai eficiente de ascundere a lor. In urma ta cetateanul simplu devine din ce in ce mai frustrat si agresiv. Mediul social devine toxic. Un adevarat pericol public. Si eu ca simplu cetatean trebuie sa suport consecintele huzurului lor? Nu nu nu. Voi denunta acest nou tip de dictatura care a ajuns mai rea decat dictatura comunista, dupa cum am putut observa direct.

Plus de asta, nu exista pentru noi ceilalti, cei care am depasit momentul sustinerii dictaturilor un organism de actiune. La fel ca si comunismul care taia varfurile spre a fi aliniate mediocritatii, in acelasi fel democratia de jucarie ne aplatizeaza pe noi care am inteles modul de functionare al societatii si nu sustinem ultranationalismul la aceasta minoritate modesta. Pentru noi nu ati creat institutii. Si suntem cativa. Noi avem de ales intre a contribui la politica voastra de jucarie pentru cobaii de la baza piramidei sociale sau a deveni apolitici. Pai cum ramane cu definitia aristoteliciana a lui zoon politikon? Ne redefiniti voi umanitatea precum animalelor din ferme viata? Nu mie. Eu nu va sustin in aceste experimente sociale si veti avea in mine un adversar spiritual care nu vede alta cale decat sa va deconspire in tot ce faceti!

Gabriel Baldovin

3. The natural consent abuses within the intimate relationships

3. The natural consent abuses within the intimate relationships

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This article continues the previous one

As I shown in the previous article, the sexual harassment consists in the artificial consent obtained from the victim for intimate relationships, through manipulation, blackmail and threatening, but not naturally, through normal emotional intimacy evolution. In addition to sexual harassment, there is another kind of non-violent emotional-sexual abuses. They act on the background of the victim's natural consent for intimacy or on the certain prospect of obtaining it. The victim openly wants a normal couple relationship with the person that asks for consent without knowing that it is an abuser. Unfortunately, the abuser only plays with the other's mind, taking advantage of the specific vulnerability to any relationship beginning.

These abuses consist in simulating the couple's intimacy relationship and their sudden temporary or total abandonment. The interest of such behavior is either gaining too much sexuality freedom in terms in respect to the other society members, or gaining the material advantages from the partner, or a certain cynical sadistic satisfaction of its emotional sufferance observing. This reveals the separating anxiety. Although these abuses are not associated with physical or verbal violence, they bring scars at least as painful to the victims as the other ones.

Another differentiation of these abuses from sexual harassment is the gender. Although men are considered the only abusers, the reality is that women too can turn into abusers of natural consent in the couple's relationship. The percentage of men and women who are emotionally abused is quite close in the last two of the three groups described below, in which this type of abuse exists. Only in the first category the ratio between men and women similar to that of sexual harassment.

As I said above, there are three types of nonviolent abuse of the couple, as follows:

• 1. The undeclared or imposed polygamy;
• 2. The undeclared (Masked) prostitution to the client;
• 3. The histrionic seductive behavior;

Next I will analyze each one in detail.

3.1. The undeclared or forced polygamy

1. To avoid any confusion I use the term polygamy as open relationship, meaning the availability to have romantic relationships with several people, whether or not they are officially registered as such in a certain state institution. The polygamy has been and still is punished in some cultures. Even in the Western culture it was harshly punished in the past and is not commonly accepted today. It is considered abnormal in the western space by the followers of conservatism in matters of everything, and implicitly also in loving relationships. According to that mentality, having a romantic relationship with another person is called cheating on the official partner.

In the past there were plenty of reasons to condemn the polygamous relationships. The most important reason was the fear to bring sexually transmitted diseases to the official partner. The second reason was the pregnancy of the adulterous woman, which affected her husband's pride, as there were usually temperamental or characteristic incompatibilities involved between him and the child, the entourage mocking and others. The third reason was and still is the social imbalance created by a man who has more wives or lovers.

Out of these 3 reasons for banning or condemning polygamy, the first two have become out of date in the contemporary Western society lifestyle. The contemporary medicine reached such a level that this behavior is no longer a partner's deception in the sense of the precautions that people ere concerned about in the past. The contraception methods or the sexual protection basically exclude the possibility of infesting the regular partner with the sexually transmitted diseases. It is only the social imbalance produced by polygamy practiced exclusively by men as in some countries that remains an issue. If the polygamy were only practiced by a minority of very rich men in the community, this would not be very disturbing. However, the number of women is higher than that of men because generally men killed each others in the wars over time. But if a significant percentage of the male population consistently has multiple monogamous partners then invariably the other segment will statistically remain unlikely to get married and socially fulfilled. And from here there arise a lot of other problems that spill over to the individual personal freedoms. We know very well the female clothing rule in the Arab countries where most of the body is hidden. Such a rule also has the function of not causing subsequent unwanted sexual behaviors for single men.

The monogamists are conservative-minded people. Their model is their grandparents and great-grandparents that did the same activities throughout their lives, without the facilities of today's lifestyle. They stayed together all their lives and were faithful. But the contemporary Western lifestyle allows for much higher mobility and meeting other potential sexual partners. A liberal mindset sees no crime in polygamy. And it does not have to be a crime if it is openly declared to and naturally consented to by the partner, and also is not forbidden to women. This last rule eliminates the problem of disproportionate marriage mentioned above. In their work „American Couples - Money- Work - Sex” , Blumstein Philip si Pepper Schwartz found that in the United States 6% of men and 5% of women are involved in the heterosexual extramarital relationships. According to the same study, 15% of couples accepted the possibility of future extramarital relations after initial discussions with their official partner. It can be deduced that not meeting yet an attractive partner has led to this percentage decreasing in terms of putting into practice this desire. There are two situations in which the polygamy becomes an abuse, respectively when it is not declared to the partner or when it is forced into a conservative mentality. Below I will describe these cases.

The undeclared polygamy either towards the couple official partner or for the newly co-opted one in the relationship is an abuse because it does not allow it to choose whether wants such a relationship or not. People who practice it do not communicate to their potential partner their status as a couple, and give the impression that they are single, in search of a stable monogamous relationship. The victim often has a conservative (monogamous) mentality and strives to build it, investing emotionally in it. Very often the undeclared polygamists are not interested in building a long-term relationship with the victim, but only in entering into a relationship with it for a certain period. Although the women can commit also this type of abuse, however, in this case the men do it to a greater extent. According to trustify.info the infidelity has been practiced by 22% of men and 14% of women in the United States. This statistics also includes the passenger relationships, which usually remain unknown to the partner and do not affect it.

The cases of undeclared polygamy are mainly done by men, but sometimes women too, who leave for several days for job reasons or get relocated for a longer period of time, or who stay away from family for various other causes. During this period, they are looking for a temporary partner who replaces the official family for a certain period. After the end of the travel period, the abuser breaks the temporary relationship and returns to his/her marriage or relationship, leaving behind real wounds to the abandoned partner, as a result of the separation. That person is left with the bitter feeling of "substitute", of a place that belongs to another one.

People with a conservative monogamous mentality have reason to feel deceived by polygamous partners whether they are hidden or declared. It is reasonable that the aspect of parallel sexual relationships to the official marital couple ones should be openly discussed by the partners before formalizing the relationship into marriage so that there would be no further frustrations. If one partner changes its mentality from monogamous to polygamous throughout the relationship, it is normal to discuss this aspect with the partner regardless of consequences.

The imposed polygamy is an abuse initially practiced by the upper area of the social pyramid privileged ones, as I have shown in the previous article . As obtruded by them, the imposed polygamy also becomes a norm for those below in social hierarchy by imitation. There is a very high predisposition to reach the privileged ones and to imitate their lifestyle. Following their example, but without their social framework that benefit from, the lower social status ones are caught in the real traps. The prospect of a rapid social status climbing determines them to accept very well paid jobs although very stressful, or deviant from the moral or legal social rules. The higher emotional suffering after working in these conditions, the bigger tendency for polygamous deflation. These people are tyrants in the spaces where they spend their free time, causing frustration to others, who are trying to respond back. This creates a contagion of abuses, starting from the top of the social pyramid to its base. The apparent opulence causes the weak ones to enter a toxic hierarchy and accept the execution of stressful orders. They believe that they can thus enter their idyllic entourage if they accept such orders, but in reality they will experience social uprooting. The illusion of receiving higher liberties actually leads to the loss of more important ones.

The polygamy strengthens a false self-esteem for this kind of men. They face frustrations in their social life, whether at work, in the family, or in the community. In their minds the polygamy is equivalent to the alpha male status, never abused always abusive. The access to the rest of the females is a sign of strengthening this primitive illusion. The search for intimate relationships with more women thus fuels an illusion of liberation from these traumas anguish. The more a person accepts the stressful or inhuman orders humility at work on the hierarchical scale, the more it needs to defuse these frustrations in polygamous behavior, or to another kind of abuses.



Seduced by this perspective of social ascension and by the emancipation from the psychical pressures burdens that the powerful ones bring on the middle or base of the social pyramid, many women accept such temporary luxury prostitution when they have such an "opportunity." The contemporary social privileged ones, with access to money, have taken the liberty to have any woman by various couples harassment strategies. The polygamy is normal when it comes to someone of the personal liberties extension but also when it comes the partner ones in the matter of sexual relationships. Unfortunately, when the polygamy happens, most of the times it is not an extension of the couple's freedoms but an imposed by pressure prostitution and practiced for survival or social ascension.

In the past, only the religiously worshiped kings could boast such abusive liberties over others. Today any owner of several hundreds of thousands of euros can easily choose a sexual partner from the street, using as instrument the very social framework, which is essentially abusive.

In the next article I will analyze the second category of non-violent couple abusers, respectively the persons who practice undeclared (Masked) prostitution over their partners that don’t suspect about being extorted.

Gabriel Baldovin